To leave hungover DH with baby?

(78 Posts)
luckylucky24 Sun 23-Oct-16 10:05:37

DH agreed to have 1yr old today but went to a wedding last night and is hungover. I expressed my frustration at not being able to go shopping as planned today (he didn't get me a birthday present so this was to be it - shopping alone without the children) and he said "just take the kids down stairs and when I have been sick i'll be fine".
AIBU to think he is not in a fit state to care for a one year old but leave him to do it anyway?
I have arranged DS to go to his Grans (she cannot have 1 yr old) and will prepare her lunch so he cannot claim he "didn't know what to feed her".
Rescheduling isn't really an option as we have plans most weekends between now and xmas. I also feel I shouldn't have to as I have had the kids alone for the last 24 hrs so he could go to this wedding, even gave him a lift at 9am to his mates and in return I get let down!
Would you just go?

Smartleatherbag Sun 23-Oct-16 10:07:09

Wow, he has been really unfair, ruining your plans. If the baby will be fine with him the number go, and put the phone onto silent.

Smartleatherbag Sun 23-Oct-16 10:07:31

Sorry, autocorrect went crazy there!

Hotwaterbottle1 Sun 23-Oct-16 10:07:42

Yep Id just go!! I'd also not make her lunch!

CremeBrulee Sun 23-Oct-16 10:10:21

I get why you are u happy but wasn't it pretty obvious when you planned this that he'd be hungover after attending a wedding party the night before?

LittleBearPad Sun 23-Oct-16 10:11:59

He'll survive. I'd go. Don't make lunch. A father should know what their one year old will eat.

Nocabbageinmyeye Sun 23-Oct-16 10:12:58

Everyone here will just tell you to go, people trot it out here all the time, a thread says my dh went out and got day arsed drink and fell in sick at 4am and mn's reply is "spa day". But I couldn't, for my sake because I couldn't relax and for my dc's because if I don't want to be stuck with a hungover lump all day then why would they. Probably not what you want to hear but even if you go now your child free shopping day is still a bit meh isn't it

NoIsAnAnswer Sun 23-Oct-16 10:13:11

Make him a coffe. Give him 2 ibuprofen and tell him you're leaving in half an hour and tell him to get in the shower.

Dress one year old and feed her.

Leave in half an hour.

Baby will be fine. Dh can get on with it. You can have a lovely day

ageingrunner Sun 23-Oct-16 10:13:36

He sounds useless. Does he generally not feed his children?

StealthPolarBear Sun 23-Oct-16 10:13:53

I'd not go, I wouldn't leave a baby with a vomiting parent. Despite the reason for the vomiting, it is not the baby's fault.

Giratina Sun 23-Oct-16 10:14:19

I don't think I'd go just because you'll be worried all day and won't enjoy it.

MatildaTheCat Sun 23-Oct-16 10:15:27

Give him half an hour to get his shit together and then leave. Return at your own convenience. Switch your phone to silent. He'll be ok, just miserable. Shame. smile

PinkyOfPie Sun 23-Oct-16 10:15:52

Do it. He'll learn the hard way hangovers and kids don't mix!

mycatstares Sun 23-Oct-16 10:16:17

What the hell are you with such a loser for,
he doesn't know what to feed his kids for lunch?!

Get rid of the bloody idiot and stop wasting you life away with him!

Peanutandphoenix Sun 23-Oct-16 10:16:19

I would go if I where you and leave the dick head to it don't even make DD any lunch drunken ass can do it himself. Enjoy your relaxing day of shopping you deserve it.

luckylucky24 Sun 23-Oct-16 10:18:14

I'm not going all day. 3 hours max. Yes he is useless at feeding them. If he isn't hungry it doesn't occur to him they may be.

Meadows76 Sun 23-Oct-16 10:18:20

I would totally go and leave him to struggle on through. It's the worst thing ever feeling hungover and you just want to curl up in bed but can't. Definitely don't let his selfish actions ruin your day. Then later when lo is in bed have a serious talk about his complete disregard for you.

Ilovenannyplum Sun 23-Oct-16 10:18:45

Yeah I'd go. He's an idiot. If he knew that he would be in charge today, he shouldn't have been so selfish and got pissed.

In The Night Garden on repeat all day will do wonders for his hangover grin

Make sure you spend a nice long time looking round the shops and absolutely stop for coffee and cake or wine

NoIsAnAnswer Sun 23-Oct-16 10:19:32

3 hours?

Definitely go.

And enjoy every minute! Don't rush back

theclick Sun 23-Oct-16 10:20:43

I would go so he learns his lesson. He probably expects you not to now.

amazingtracy Sun 23-Oct-16 10:24:19

I cannot be the only person that has had to parent while hungover? Not an enjoyable experience granted but not exactly impossible either!
Bloody hell- its only 3 hours!!! Get your arse out the door and suggest that you all go out for dinner.
Disclaimer- single parent with no choice but to get on with it!

luckylucky24 Sun 23-Oct-16 10:26:06

To be fair he is very good at practical things like money, insurance etc. Planning, time keeping is appalling.
And yes I knew he may be hungover but to the point of being sick is irresponsible. If the tables were turned I would have reined it in wedding or not.

NoIsAnAnswer Sun 23-Oct-16 10:27:55

He's an adult and a father to two DC.

You have 2 DC. Not 3. Your youngest will be fine.

BeerBelly79 Sun 23-Oct-16 10:28:19

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StealthPolarBear Sun 23-Oct-16 10:28:23

No tracy but I'd avoid it if possible

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