So nutshell backstory:
Abusive marriage, he bugged my flat threatened to kill me, I had him arrested and he no longer lives here. Divorce is underway.
He demands an ad hoc contact arrangement and flatly refuses to take both kids at the same time.
We're about to start mediation to come to a contact arrangement. I'm 100% sure it will be fruitless as he has already said if he doesn't get what he wants then we are going to court. So I'm looking at this all being dragged out.
Last Saturday he took dd(4) out for lunch. He brought her back 2 hours late. His excuse was she needed a poo. He gave dinner as well. No prior warning. Turns out that he had zero intention of bringing her back on time (I know this based on where he went with her)
This week Saturday (yesterday) he again took her out for lunch and said she will be back for dinner. Brought her back over 2 hours late, 20 mins past bedtime. He did text me 35 mins after her dinner time to say they had only just finished their activity and he would give her dinner and return her.
Of course by that point I was worrying and had cooked her a wasted dinner.
He also fed her McDonald's for lunch and dinner.
He refused to let her wear her trainers yesterday to go with him cos he doesn't like them. Instead she had to spend the whole day in some boots, which isn't exactly a problem, except she went out in tears as she wanted her trainers on and actually had I known the sheer volume of walking she would do I would have put her trainers on.
He had taken into the city on the tube and in the morning he had asked for her iPad. I had said no and I got a series of abusive texts. He 'needed' the iPad to entertain her on the tube.
She is today, exhausted, with a high temp, a cough and a cold. I feel like saying to him that he can't take her out anymore as he doesn't put her well being first.
Can I do that?
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If I stop contact?
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GettingScaredNow · 23/10/2016 08:38
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