To cringe at DH asking DS if he had a nice time.

(78 Posts)
Happyhippy45 Sat 22-Oct-16 21:49:14

Ds has recently having regular dates through tinder. He has been friends online with the girls for a while, some of them are friends of friends.
He told DH about going on date (DH prised it out of him.)
I had my suspicions he was on tinder but at 19 it's his business. He's a sensible lad.
The last twice he's come home after a date (not overnight.) DH asks him in a amused tone "Did you have a nice time?"
I think it sounds like he's taking the piss and it's cringy as fuck.

Arcadia Sat 22-Oct-16 21:51:43

I don't see the problem hmm

ThymeLord Sat 22-Oct-16 21:52:33

Eh?

DramaInPyjamas Sat 22-Oct-16 21:53:15

What's cringe about a dad asking his son if he had a nice time out? confused

Happyhippy45 Sat 22-Oct-16 21:53:29

Potentially Ds has been out shagging......"did you have a nice time?" Just sounds off to me.

ImperialBlether Sat 22-Oct-16 21:54:16

But does every date end in sex? It sounds a normal question to me!

usual Sat 22-Oct-16 21:54:16

Well I've asked my DS if hes had a nice time when he's been on a date. Why wouldn't you?

Happyhippy45 Sat 22-Oct-16 21:54:24

It's the way DH says it, like he's laughing about it.

2014newme Sat 22-Oct-16 21:54:36

Sounds completely appropriate and pleasant to me. Son can just reply yes thanks

Milzilla Sat 22-Oct-16 21:54:44

:/

Isn't it weirder to totally avoid the topic?

LouisvilleLlama Sat 22-Oct-16 21:54:52

If he ever gets a long term girlfriend god help the dad if he asks how the relationship is going or takes an interest in his sons personal life in a general way

ThymeLord Sat 22-Oct-16 21:55:06

Would you rather he said, how was the shag son?! grin

usual Sat 22-Oct-16 21:55:24

Going on a date doesn't mean he is out shagging.

TathitiPete Sat 22-Oct-16 21:56:09

Do you think DH is mocking DS for online dating? If so then yeah, that's a bit shit.

MistressMolecules Sat 22-Oct-16 21:56:34

Yes YABU - massively!

Thyme grin

Nurszilla Sat 22-Oct-16 21:56:58

I think it's quite nice that he's asking tbh.

LouisvilleLlama Sat 22-Oct-16 21:57:23

It's not like he's getting him by the shoulder sitting him down opposite eachother rubbing his hands together with glee, opening a bottle of Stella and saying " so son tell me how was she?" With dribble running down his chin from excitement

gillybeanz Sat 22-Oct-16 21:58:24

It doesn't matter if the lad had sex or not when you are asking if he had a nice time.

I'm sure mine must have had sex sometimes and I've asked if they had a good time, enjoyed themselves etc.

It would be weird not to ask because they might have.

Happyhippy45 Sat 22-Oct-16 21:58:28

No it doesn't mean he was out shagging but his dad is being childish about him going on a date and making fun of him. Like tonight he asked me to tidy up his buzz cut that I did last week before his date. He said it's grown in quite fast. His dad slagging him off that he only got me to cut it because he's going on a date. Which is probably true but why slag him off about it?

Happyhippy45 Sat 22-Oct-16 22:00:11

Yes tathit I feel like he is mocking him. He was asking me if I though he was on tinder. I said yes and he burst out laughing.

usual Sat 22-Oct-16 22:00:37

Well is he slagging him off or just joking with him, Do they have a jokey relationship?

Sounds like a dad joke to me.

Happyhippy45 Sat 22-Oct-16 22:01:39

DH thinks he's a comedian. DS is not amused by his comments.

LouisvilleLlama Sat 22-Oct-16 22:02:11

To me it sounds like a little wind up that most parents do one time or another both mothers and fathers and to boys and girls. Not mean spirited really.

usual Sat 22-Oct-16 22:03:24

Well your DS needs to tell him to stop then.

cromwell44 Sat 22-Oct-16 22:03:40

I don't see where 'slagging off' comes into it. You seem to be overly concerned about your DH and DS's conversations with each other. Perhaps you should stop trying to referee and allow your DH to interact with DS on his own terms.

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