Things I have discovered in my late thirties.

(50 Posts)
FlapsTie Sat 22-Oct-16 18:58:10

That I am happier and healthier at 12st than at 8st, I'd rather have boobs and a waist rather than hip bones and a thigh gap.

That my hair is actually curly, and there is no point fighting that, and that actually it looks nice when left mostly to its own devices.

That not everyone will like me, and that that's ok.

That it's not realistic or healthy to aspire to live in a show home all the time.

That duvet days occasionally are entirely essential.

That I'd rather have a solid ten hour's sleep than stay up to watch the end of a film.

Anyone else have any prime of life wisdom they've discovered?

MLGs Sat 22-Oct-16 19:00:07

Sex is what I've discovered late thirties. As something serioisly worth staying in for.

FlapsTie Sat 22-Oct-16 19:12:43

Oh that's true too. Although I've been with DH for ten years now so that happened in my Kate twenties really. But yes.

There's nothing so overrated as a bad shag, and nothing so underrated as a good shit. Wise words.

SmellySphinx Sat 22-Oct-16 19:15:13

Peoples opinions mean less and less. What would have bothered me for days only bothers me for a short while

Bluebolt Sat 22-Oct-16 19:30:37

Friendships should not be hard work.

crayfish Sat 22-Oct-16 19:33:53

That nobody really is interested in what I'm doing so not to feel so self conscious and worry what people think all the time.

That it's really ok to choose not to have certain people in your life, even if you are related to them.

That divorce will not ruin your life.

Dozyoldtwonk Sat 22-Oct-16 19:35:29

That I don't have to say yes to every invite; it's ok to say no. And I do, often grin

That one way relationships rarely work - if friends can't be bothered to keep in touch, I will do the same.

That quality over quantity usually wins, every time (no matter what the context).

GiveMyHeadPeaceffs Sat 22-Oct-16 19:39:38

That I'm happy with my own company... and it's important to find a partner that understands that.

That it's never too late for most things. I had ds at 42 ( very late '30's wink)

That I'm happy with my body; it's not perfect but it's good enough for me and my dp seems to like it too!

Oh and quality is always better than quantity in almost every aspect of life (other than peanut popcorn when quantity is always important!)

RainbowBriteRules Sat 22-Oct-16 19:42:12

Sex for me too. Definitely sex.

Normandy144 Sat 22-Oct-16 19:49:36

That I like Radio 2 and I don't care!

Meadows76 Sat 22-Oct-16 19:51:29

That sex with a woman is very very nice.

Meadows76 Sat 22-Oct-16 19:52:14

Yes and also radio 2

FlapsTie Sat 22-Oct-16 19:56:33

Tbf Meadows I discovered that in my twenties. And radio 2.

deathandtaxes123 Sat 22-Oct-16 20:00:31

Early 30s - if you try to include people, get them involved and they don't bother ther arse that it's ok to walk away and let them come to you (inevitably pissed off that they're not getting your attention)

JenniferYellowHat1980 Sat 22-Oct-16 20:02:54

That actually my parents won't be around forever. My DM died recently aged 60 and I'd never have believed that it would happen to her.

JenniferYellowHat1980 Sat 22-Oct-16 20:04:16

And that wider family are irrelevant unless you actually like them and want to spend time with them. Even grandparents.

Meadows76 Sat 22-Oct-16 20:06:51

Tbf Meadows I discovered that in my twenties. And radio 2.. Is that why you asked the question? So you could tell people you did it sooner? Cheers. I'm glad I took the time to answer your post hmm

DamnSkippy Sat 22-Oct-16 20:07:15

That other people don't really notice or care how bad your hair looks.

HelsBels3000 Sat 22-Oct-16 20:08:09

Confidence. In myself. In my opinions. In what I look like. Its a revelation!

bummyknocker Sat 22-Oct-16 20:09:19

Yes Jennifer I don't even like/enjoy seeing some of my siblings!

Listen to your parents life stories now - before you know it they will be losing their memories or be dead and you won't have got their life story as there is plenty of time. There isn't.

FlapsTie Sat 22-Oct-16 20:10:10

Meadows, I was trying to be lighthearted. Sorry if I offended you, that completely wasn't my intention.

hollieberrie Sat 22-Oct-16 20:10:39

Oh mine have been said already but:
- Sex with women is amazing so much better than men
- Parents not being around forever (I'm late 30's and they are both dead - I still cant get my head round it at all and my heart breaks every day)
- OF COURSE God doesn't exist. Cant believe all those years i believed in religion. What a mug I was. (Note - this is personal to me and not in any way a dig at those who do believe).

FlapsTie Sat 22-Oct-16 20:11:53

I probably should have put a smiley at the end of my radio 2 post. Reading back it looks different to how I intended it.

hollieberrie Sat 22-Oct-16 20:12:32

Jennifer flowers for you. Sorry for your loss. Losing my mum is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.

Meadows76 Sat 22-Oct-16 20:14:12

I wasn't offended as such but it did read as a bit of a 'i did it before you haha' post. TBH I slept with women in my 20's before but it wasn't anywhere near as good as it is now. I think perhaps that's general sex though regardless of gender, others seem to be enjoying the sex more too lol

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