My DM is the type to gush over Facebook about her GC and to outsiders you would think she was the most doting GM going. In reality she is not. She offers no physical help and whenever we invite her to events involving DG she usually turns them down. Family events that she attends (the ones all
Over FB) are always organised by my DH and I and the only other time we see her is when we visit or if she pops in for an hour or so (once a month) or very rarely (once a year) babysitting.
So we was having an honest conversation and she stated that she just wanted interested in coming to DG plays/events. That she had come to a time in her life when she was only doing things which suited her and if the event held no interest for her then she would say no. She said it is still nice to be asked though and she still feels there are plenty of events that she does attend because they hold interest for her. The trouble is these are all events that DH and I organise.
I appreciate her honesty and wish she had done this ages ago. It would have saved years of buying tickets for xmas plays that she pulled out of at the last minute.
But then I got to thinking! To me it isn't about if DM is interested. Sometimes it is just nice to do it because the event is important to DG. I am not being precious in anyway about my children and we have never asked for anything from my parents in the way of my DC but it is more her attitude behind it of "I won't do it if it doesn't suit but you should still ask"
Part of me wants to stop organising family get togethers but would this be unfair considering she was only being honest?
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To stop making effort with DM or am I unfairly punishing her?
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rabbit12345 · 21/10/2016 20:46
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