Inappropriate tv at Inlaws

[Zippyette]

Whilst I was at in laws on Sunday a dead body was on the TV screen whilst my FIL watched beregerac. I said at the time it wasnt appropriate for my 3 yo daughter but FIL just responded by saying 'she doesn't look very well' to his granddaughter. I was fuming so we left soon after.
I've said to my husband that we should say something to his parents before we visit next time such as ' can you make sure you're not watching an adult programme next time we visit?' (Or something similar -ideas?!) But he thinks we should ask them to turn the telly off or over if it happens again as he doesn't want to upset them. I'm saying I'm being proactive as they're still going to get upset and feel he's putting his parents feelings before our need to protect our child. He disagrees.

So now I gave two choices - either phone them up and say something - potentially upsetting them (which I've already done when I turned the telly over to cbbc bedtime when we were visiting over the summer as it was near bedtime and I wanted something calming) or go along with my husband.
What would you do?

[VladmirsPoutine]

I'd find something more important to get worked up about tbh.

[Ginmakesitallok]

Bergerac?? It's hardly game of thrones is it??

[Homebird90]

I'd not make a big deal of it - if similar happens again I'd say

"is it alright to turn it over please? DD's frightened"

My parents got the right hump when I practically had to wrestle the remote off them in MY OWN HOME when they were watching a particularly shouty, violent episode of Eastenders and my sensitive 4 yo DD was in the room.

[SalemSaberhagen]

gin

[rumpelstiltskin43]

You're being rediculous. Stop being so precious.

[Soubriquet]

I think you are over reacting

Your dd probably didn't even notice until there was a fuss and even if she did it's easy to say oh they're playing

[HeCantBeSerious]

We weren't very happy when BBC lunchtime news showed a police officer having his leg blown off during rioting several times when DD was about 3 - there was no warning whatsoever.

But a pretend corpse on Bergerac? I'd not be too stressed about that.

[MrsCookieMonster78]

I would get a life maybe or distract my child from the TV when I'm in someone else's house and they are entitled to watch what they like.
Hoping this is a joke, if not be thankful this is the biggest problem you have with PIL.

[Hiphopopotamus]

Did your FD actually care or get upset, or was it just you making a fuss?
Do you expect them to switch over to cbeebies when you're there?

[Hiphopopotamus]

Obviously DD not FD!

[NerrSnerr]

Isn't Bergerac on in the day anyway? I mean, it's no Murder, She Wrote but I'm sure your child will be fine.

[PberryT]

😂 😂

Imagine the DM sad face "My 3 year old was terrified by Bergerac".

[glasgowlass]

Do you normally act so preciously & overreact to trivial things? It's Bergerac, it's not actually real! Do you let your child watch Disney (or similar) movies where a character dies?

[Katinkka]

Lol. You're ridiculous

[SolomanDaisy]

I seem to be in the minority, but I wouldn't want my 5 year old to see that. I don't watch any sort of adult drama when he's around and no one has ever suggested it would be ok. I think for a couple of hours your in laws could delay watching an ancient episode of Bergerac.

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

which I've already done when I turned the telly over to cbbc bedtime when we were visiting over the summer as it was near bedtime and I wanted something calming

Did you say anything before turning it over? I'd be pretty hacked off if you did that.

Your DD is unlikely to be bothered by a pretend dead body.

[Marilynsbigsister]

You are one strange lady although part of me thinks this is so loony you may actually be a piss take of 'in-law' angst.. as played out in Humpty Dumpty AIBU's . Either way . Desist and grow up. Watching Bergerac will not psychologically ruin your child. Find something else to bug your in laws and dh about.!

[ThoraGruntwhistle]

What the fudge? Bergerac is not going to traumatise your child due to its extreme triple X detective content or anything. Are you usually offended by the Channel Islands?

[PotteringAlong]

on Sunday a dead body was on the TV screen

It's Bergerac, not know as the epitome of great acting. I bet if you watched closely you could see the dead body breathing!

Don't sweat the small stuff.

[TinnedChickenSoupCunt]

Welcome to Mumsnet

[Stevefromstevenage]

Good one OP. Bergerac 'wont somebody think of the children' classic.

[EastMidsMummy]

YABU.

[Creampastry]

Bergerac .........!!!!

[kaitlinktm]

I honestly wouldn't worry about Bergerac - your DD probably thought the guy was lying down with a headache.

Years ago my DM, in all innocence, recorded Trainspotting for my then 10-year-old son - because he liked trains.

Fortunately I found out before she could let him watch it at her house (she hadn't watched it herself). Her reaction when I explained what it was about was annoyance "Well, fancy calling it Trainspotting then. How am I supposed to know?"

[Hellochicken]

I'd go along with your DH. If there is something horrifying on TV I'd say something along lines of
"Chickensson is wide-eyed at that, I don't want him to have nightmares, could we watch something else"

Disclaimer** I've never seen Bergerac