DS came home with his eye hurting on Friday after a boy threw woodchip at him. I knew this boy and DS didn't get on but now DS has told us he has basically been terrorising DS and his friend for months, and getting the other boys to gang up on him.
I've read the school's bullying policy and it says that except in serious cases, they have a process which basically amounts to mediation: the victim (their words), "Instigator(s)", colluders (children who failed to intervene) and possibly some friends of the victim are brought together and the victim is asked to say how the behaviour of the bully makes them feel. The group of DC are asked to suggest ways they might help.
It also says that the victims story will be shared and explained to other DC so they can be aware of the victim's distress.
DS would hate having to explain how he feels about what's been going on in front of his peers, and for others to know about it.
It's taken him months to fully tell us what's going on and we have a pretty good relationship when it comes to being open about stuff (I thought so anyway). I don't know how DS will feel about it suddenly being talked about by lots of people in what sounds like a very public way.
Should I be pushing for this to go directly to the head?
My instant reaction is that it'll be humiliating for him - but maybe it gets results?
Does anyone have any experience of this?
(Posting here for traffic. I do have another thread on this but I'm hoping the meeting might be this afternoon).
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aforestgrewandgrew · 17/10/2016 14:14
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