NC as this will out me. Don't particularly give two hoots if the person involved reads this, just don't want them going back through my old posts.
I found out I was pregnant on Thursday. It was a huge shock and I was trying to process it all. On Friday I began bleeding, lightly at first but has gotten heavier. I am fairly convinced this is a miscarriage, I've had one before and this feels exactly the same.
Last night on a group I am on on Facebook they did a wave of light for pregnancy and infant loss. I haven't told anyone what I am going through other than DP, but I made a post saying I would be lighting a candle and talking about what I am going through.
I didn't realise that someone I knew was on the group until she commented with a shocked face. She then posted a status on her FB profile about how she doesn't know what to make or what she sees and that she doesn't know if she can mentally cope with it. She has form for making ambiguous statuses. I brushed it off but was a bit that it had come so soon after seeing my post. She received the usual 'You ok Hun?' replies and replied back to someone saying that everytime she has something to celebrate (she is almost 6 months pregnant) something comes along and bursts her bubble, and that she'd tell the person who responded all about it when she saw her.
Maybe I am just upset and irrational, but this made me fume . This isn't the first time she's taken something I have said or done and made an ambiguous status from it.
I couldn't hold my tongue and I, perhaps stupidly, fired off a reply on my original post saying sorry I had inconvenienced her and well done for making it all about her. This obviously devolved into a bit of a spat in the replies. She bought up that we weren't planning to get pregnant (like this matters?) and called me selfish and delusional and that the status was nothing to do with me.
AUBu to have done this? I just felt it was the straw that broke the camels back. I understand my post may have shaken her but maybe a direct message to me would have been more prudent.
Feel a bit about the whole thing today.
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flamboyantfolly · 16/10/2016 14:15
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