Any Mums Feel Nervous About Going Out Socially!

[tigercub50]

This isn't an AIBU thread but I didn't know how to start one so I put it here. I have always been quite an anxious person & worry WAY too much about what others think, what to say etc etc. Since having DD, I very rarely go out ( we didn't have much of a social life before tbh). Some of the Mums & some people I have never met are going out for a 40th celebration meal on Saturday. Part of me is excited but mainly I am really fretting. Do any other Mums find it hard? It would be so easy just to curl up in front of the tv with my usual ready meal curry.

[tigercub50]

P.S Sorry that exclamation mark was meant to be a question mark

[anniroc]

Are these mums from school/nursery?

[tigercub50]

Yes most of them are

[Dieu]

I don't find it hard, no. Well, other than being a lazy cow who sometimes can't be arsed. Can I ask what is it you're finding hard specifically? Leaving your child (again, no guilt here!) or chatting to the other mums?

[mikeyssister]

Would never have thought of myself as a socially anxious person at all, but I absolutely hate evenings. Even if it's just us and BFFs I panic beforehand.

And don't get me started on weddings. I try every excuse in the book to try to get out of them. Funnily, we are supposed to be going to a cousin's wedding at the weekend and DH has refused for me as he knows I'm under huge pressure to work - and I didn't complain at all before he contacted them. I love my DH.

[Dabisadancemove]

I know exactly what you mean. Whenever I have plans to go out with people who I view more as acquaintances than close friends, I get very anxious that I will say/do the "wrong" thing and isolate myself socially. And afterwards I analyse my behaviour forensically to decide whether I did commit any social faux pas or not. It's very tiring and sometimes I do wonder if it's worth exposing myself to the anxiety. I wish I could be kinder to myself because, in general, all of these fears are utterly unfounded and I could save myself the angst!

[JellyWitch]

Well I hate school parents gatherings but no problem socialising with my friends. I just don't have a lot in common with the school lot (other than kids the same age).

[anniroc]

Go, have a glass of wine or whatever and you will probably enjoy yourself. I used to go to Pta events before I knew many parents and people were very welcoming. Good luck x