To be nervous about this?

(8 Posts)
gembran Mon 10-Oct-16 12:36:21

Flatmate is v lovely but also v big on sharing friends e.g. When her friends/family come over, she invites us all out to spend time with them, likes us all going out for drinks in the eve etc etc. I Iike this too so all good!

Her mum is coming to stay shortly though (in our house) and she has mentioned us all socialising together a few times now. I would love to meet her mum but equally have a few weekend plans of my own and unfortunately lots and lots of work to do (I'm a student).

What can I say without sounding rude or standoffish? I'm also a bit of an introvert deep-down and need time in my room chilling - can't be around people 24/7 especially after long work days!

gembran Mon 10-Oct-16 12:36:54

I just don't think I can spend the whole weekend with her and her mum!

followTheyellowbrickRoad Mon 10-Oct-16 12:38:42

Just saw that you have a lot on that time and pick a couple of things you can join them for.

gembran Mon 10-Oct-16 12:41:27

Ok thanks - it's just weekends are short and precious and I'm not sure realistically whether I do have time to join them, but don't want to be rude confused

MiddleClassProblem Mon 10-Oct-16 12:43:12

Just be honest. Say you'll have to work in the day but can do the evenings or whatever.

myownprivateidaho Mon 10-Oct-16 12:45:24

There's nothing rude about not joining them for the whole thing. Just go to the bits you want to go to and say you have other plans/work for the rest.

JosephineMaynard Mon 10-Oct-16 12:47:51

If she brings it up again, could you say something like "I already have plans all day Saturday / need to work on assignments Saturday, but I can do Sunday afternoon "? (Adjusting times to suit yourself)

That way you're showing a willingness to socialise but at the same time making it clear that you unfortunately can't spend all weekend helping her entertain her mum.

gembran Mon 10-Oct-16 14:42:36

Ok thanks, good suggestions.

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