to be really pissed off at my friend for saying "I'd do her"?

(116 Posts)
CoolToned Thu 06-Oct-16 22:58:14

This is how he describes women.

To be fair, he's a geeky guy who is probably just compensating from years of being a geek. He's actually a specialist doctor (just finished) and a good person otherwise.

It just disgusts me. I called him on it before and he's back to doing it again.

user1471517900 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:00:58

That's how he describes women he fancies. There's not much difference in someone saying "I'd do unspeakable things to him" on here. I don't think this is a big deal.

MumOnTheRunCatchingUp Thu 06-Oct-16 23:01:14

I'm sure you must say things which also annoy him!

user1471517900 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:03:49

Do you fancy him OP?

Oysterbabe Thu 06-Oct-16 23:05:22

This is really no big deal.
I've been known to say "I totally would" on occasions.

ayeokthen Thu 06-Oct-16 23:05:56

ExBIL used to say "aye she'd get it" about women all the time. My stock response was "ah but would she want it?" Usually shut him up.

StillMaidOfStars Thu 06-Oct-16 23:07:52

I don't really have a problem with it. I have indulged in the occasional 'I so would' myself.

The only thing that amuses me is that the speaker - your friend or me - is implying that their personal desire is the limiting factor in the equation. As if it is a given that the target would of course reciprocate. That we are doing them a favour grin

StillMaidOfStars Thu 06-Oct-16 23:08:23

Basically, what aye said quicker than me.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Thu 06-Oct-16 23:10:32

Not a problem to say it to a friend IMHO.

To say "I'd do you" to a stranger would be rather creepy though!

melibu84 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:11:18

I've said that about men, and the occasional woman lol

WorraLiberty Thu 06-Oct-16 23:13:00

Blimey, do you also get really annoyed with all the Mumsnetters who say, "I'd do him" on celebrity threads?

It's certainly more polite than your friend saying, "I'd fuck her" grin

frikadela01 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:15:27

I don't see it's a problem. Me and dp often say which celebs we'd "do" given the chance grin Especially Sean Bean... I'd club that like a tree!!!

frikadela01 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:15:48

Climb not club

CoolToned Thu 06-Oct-16 23:18:30

StillMaidofStars - that's what I tell him! Like he has a chance!

bummyknocker Thu 06-Oct-16 23:32:31

Why wouldn't he have a chance? A good person, specialist doctor, what is your issue? You sound less than nice putting him down.

I look at men and think 'I so would' Am not single but have a libido, what is wrong with that?

PerspicaciaTick Thu 06-Oct-16 23:33:31

If it is the only way he talks about women, that he is only able to think about them in terms of how sexy he finds them, then I'd find it boring and juvenile and I think the friendship would die a death quite naturally.

Hopefully it is something he only comes out with occasionally and he is able to have non-sexual conversations too.

WorraLiberty Thu 06-Oct-16 23:36:05

How do you know he wouldn't have a chance?

In fact the first thing I thought when you said he's a geeky guy who is probably just compensating from years of being a geek

Was that actually, that's not very nice either.

Horses for courses. You might not fancy 'geeky guys' as you describe them but that doesn't mean other women don't.

Redglitter Thu 06-Oct-16 23:37:51

Wow you sound a nice friend. Who says he wouldn't have a chance. Just because he's not your cup.of tea doesn't mean no one would be interested

CoolToned Thu 06-Oct-16 23:44:08

That's a tongue-in-cheek reaction! When he says he'd do this he'd do that, that's just my answer!

And I like geeky guys - I'm married to a very geeky one.

CoolToned Thu 06-Oct-16 23:45:17

And by the way, when he says "I'd do her", his meaning is the Urban Dictionary meaning.

MrsKCastle Thu 06-Oct-16 23:46:24

Ugh. I'm with you OP, I think that's a horrible way to talk about women.

Lorelei76 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:46:35

Hmm
I also say "I would" which does seem the same as that...and wouldn't kick them out of bed etc comments.
If he only sees women that way then different again but as he's mates with you, I'm guessing he's not like that?

Queenbean Thu 06-Oct-16 23:46:36

I'd say "I'd do him"

But I'd also say "I'd ride him in to battle" so maybe I'm not the best judge of classy lines

Lorelei76 Thu 06-Oct-16 23:47:14

Queen, cross post....fab line!!

TwentyCups Thu 06-Oct-16 23:48:07

I hate the phrase too.
It's the arrogance, a man bestowing his approval, and the assumption that she would be interested. 'She'd get it' even worse.
I know not everyone takes issue with it, but i hate hearing these phrases.

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