My kid won't wipe their arse!

[crazybat]

AIBU?

My son is 6.5

I'm in the bath.

He won't wipe his own arse and is currently begging me to do it for him.

25 minutes so far. I feel cruel. Apparently all I need to do is get out the bath wipe his bum and go back to my bath. (Different room)

[BlancheBlue]

Wto why have you been wiping his arse at 6.5 unless there is a sn reason

[chitofftheshovel]

Nah, fuck that shit. Assuming you've taught him how (cos otherwise you'd obviously do it). He's plenty old enough to sort himself out.

[RueDeDay]

Ha. My DD is the same. We have negotiated it down to once per day, her pre bedtime wee... She is apparently 'too bexhausted' to wipe by then.

[crazybat]

I have tried everything... it's not a choice trust me. He's still there. Yes behavioural issues are there.

[crazybat]

I think we might be getting somewhere!!

[Juanbablo]

There was a thread about this a while ago that got very heated! But the op stood her ground and her dc wiped his own arse and continued to do so. Here's hoping your bum wiping days are over!

[neonrainbow]

Shouldn't have to wipe a NT kids arse at 6.5. Hold your ground!

[Meadows76]

Seriously? If you want him To wipe his own arse then make it start some other time. Getting into a war with a 6.5 year old about toileting is quite frankly ridiculous. Your kid wants you, WTF is so difficult aabout helping him?

[crazybat]

It's just been a massive issue. And I generally don't have an hour to spare every time he goes to have a stand off. But tonight I'm holding my ground.

He's scared of getting it on his fingers (he has sensory issues.)

Okay. He's having a go. That's all I want!! I've shown him a million times.

[crazybat]

Nothing meadow. This is my point... it's so easy just to go and help him.

[crazybat]

37 minutes. He's done it himself. And he's very chuffed with himself. X :)

[Flobster]

My four year old won't do his either, says he will do it at school not home! It's driving me mad, his other excuse is his bum won't let him in! I assume he means his cheeks

[SpaceDinosaur]

YES!!! Well done crazy

Lots and lots and lots of praise

[crazybat]

Super amounts of praise I'm so happy and proud of him !!!

I hear this too re the school thing what he actually does is not go at all at school/ or his dads etc he will hold it in until he's home when I can do it.

(He had an accident at school when he was poorly once) when he first started so that really didn't help.

[AllTheUsernamesAreTaken3]

How about providing him with a disposable glove until he feels more confident? No-one wants shit on their fingers!

[AllTheUsernamesAreTaken3]

Oh - didn't see the last few posts! Well done him!

[Flobster]

Mine doesn't go at school either!

[Juanbablo]

Well done little crazy!

[crazybat]

That did cross my mind all the usernames I might have a go as I'm sure it won't be an easy ride straight away.

He was really proud of himself for doing it but he's now upset that I want him to do it by himself every time. I think it's a comfort/habit/lazy/routine thing.

He has a few behavioural/independency issues and trying to tackle them one by one this one is definitely the hardest

[thecatsarecrazy]

My son used to be like this, no issues he's just a stubborn little so and so. Thankfully now he will do it but at 6 he was still expecting me too. School he was fine home refused to do it.

[AllTheUsernamesAreTaken3]

I hadn't even realised that my two held it in at school (I'm not sure I even know how to do that - if I need to go, I go) until they were much older and told me in a "Hey, I'm nine now, this stuff I used to do when I was 5 - what? Hahaha!" kinda way. Actually I appear to have missed quite a few things, like the school loos being too vile to spend more than a penny in.

Happy to report that now they are in their 30s, none has bowel issues of any sort!

[sassymuffin]

I had this when DS was younger, eventually he was diagnosed at 10 with dyspraxia/dcd and this is a common issue with children with this condition as they find it really difficult to complete this task and clean themselves properly so may try to avoid doing it themselves. Wet toilet wipes often help.

This probably is not the case with your ds but i thought I would mention it in case there was a chance it was relevant.

[crazybat]

What is DCD? If you don't mind me asking?

We had another eventually successful bum wipe this morning. toddler wipes are definitely the way forward

[1DAD2KIDS]

My 5 year old DD wont either. Does at school apparently but wont at home. Its starting to get really annoying when you have a million things to do and an 18 month old to look after. I have started a reward system to encourage her. I also find toilet tissue difficult. Has anyone tried those toilet wet wipes? I was wondering if that would encourage her too?

[sassymuffin]

crazybat DCD is development co-ordination disorder sometimes called dyspraxia. It is a neurological disorder that can cause problems with fine and gross motor skills. People with this condition can often appear clumsy and fall over or drop things a lot, they can have problems with things such as tying shoe laces, handwriting, fastening buttons, riding a bike and sports. Organisation can be a big issue too.