....In a quandry. My DM is coming to visit for 3 weeks later in the month. She says she really wants to spend time with us and the kids, as she has had a very stressful year. She is not very well (chronic illness) and the trip to us is gruelling (pretty much as long a flight as you can get..).
This morning, she emails me very excitedly, saying she has chatted to her friend and friend suggested that she come with DM to help her out and join her on her 'holiday' - also staying with us for 2 out of the 3 weeks.
I understand that the friend could help her on the flight, and she could have company while we are at work and the kids are at daycare, but....
-Since August, we have already had 2 sets of visitors staying for 2 and 3 weeks respectively
-It's more work for me and my DH - cooking, cleaning etc. We are crazily busy - both FT work and 2 kids at different daycares.
-Four adults and 2 kids don't fit into our car and we live suburban, so daytrips or even town trips etc will be a pain
-My DH has only met the friend once - at our wedding
-The kids are already a bit loopy - craving a bit of routine, I think and more visitors will be another upheaval
- I feel like with a virtual stranger there as well, it'd be a lot of polite small talk and (me) running round doing the catering, rather than good quality playtime with kids.
So, am inclined to say , sorry no, the friend can't stay, but....AIBU - should I chill out and be more welcoming and just deal with the inconvenience? I feel bad saying no to my mum after the year she has had. WWYD? Arghhh.