Everyone says I'm the luckiest wife, because my husband helps with one of the school runs and also whilst I've been suffering with HG he's let me nap when he comes home from work.
I do all of the making sure the bills are paid, replying to his emails, even pretending to be him over messenger to keep his mother happy as he doesn't reply to her, I do all of the food shopping and meal planning (sometimes I have a meal go out of date by mistake and he goes mad) I keep the house spotless whilst he's at work, I get our 3 children dressed and out of the house for 8am for the school run, if he's ever tired or forgotten lunch I drive 10 miles to take him something to eat or drink, I wash his clothes, I have to google any information he wants 'read quickly' regarding his hobby.
Today, the plan was to meet at home and walk to DC school together to do pick up as it was a nice day, sunny and crisp. However, there was some kind of hold up and he didn't make it, leaving me to push our extremely heavy pram up a hill that I wouldn't of had to do if he'd been there to push it like arranged, if not I'd have driven.
So when we all returned home, after sorting things I asked could I go and have a quick rest as my pelvis was very sore and I felt unwell. This was fine...
Anyway, I came down and I said 'is there anything you'd like me to do' he said oh no, I'll vacuum later. I said really it's fine, I'm better and I like to get things over and done with so I can relax in the evening knowing there is nothing needing doing.
The next minute out of no where he goes mental at me, says 'well perhaps if I was like other dads who went out to the pub I'd have an easier life, other dads don't help, other dads don't rush their Arse off to help with school runs whilst I'm at home' I said ' I wasn't at home, I walked to collect them' to which he replied ' you're always at fucking home'.
Then proceeded to say ' if I stopped smashing up the car he wouldn't have to go and wash it ready to go to the Paint shop tomorrow' I accidentally hit the front plastic bumper 😔
I'm sobbing, I feel he's so bloody nasty sometimes.
AIBU?
To be hurt my DHs comments tonight.
Singalongsydney · 03/10/2016 19:43
That sounds totally OTT OP. I'm not surprised you are upset! 
YNBU to be hurt by his comments. But his comments are not really about you, they are a reflection of him.
You clearly go out of your way to do everything for him and in return he is nasty.
Of course other dads "help" but they don't consider it helping they consider it parenting.
Why does he decide what needs doing before you relax for the evening? You are an equal partner in the relationship and should have an equal say
for you
He thinks you're ungrateful? 
My DH would think I'd been abducted by aliens and replaced with a replica if I did a fraction of what you do and I'm a SAHM with just 1 child.
Your DH needs a kick up the arse.
I'm not surprised you're upset op 
Never in this world would my DH speak to or treat me like that. Nor should yours, it's not ok.
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He lets you have a nap? You have to Google information for him and send messages to his mum pretending they're from him? You have to ask his permission to have a lie down when you're in pain?
Are you his wife or his employee? 
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