So DH's uncle and auntie in law are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary next week. We had an invite to a 'doo' to celebrate which we received a few weeks back. We're not able to make it as we have another thing booked with friends (joint get together to celebrate a few 40ths) all of us have LOs so it's a low key but very much looked forward to meet up.
Anyway DH to his admission completely forgot to reply to Auntue/Uncle's invite, but in our lack of response the family have taken that we will be attending and paid for 4 meals upfront for us.
We are at a loss of what you do. Feel really bad that this has happened but a quick text/call to check would have confirmed that we wouldn't be going. DH father (brother of uncle) is giving us huge emotional blackmail that we should go as they've paid alot of money out for us etc. It may seem trivial but this is part of a long list of issues where we get walked over by his family and give in for an easy life.
I have suggested we ring the venue and check if numbers can be adjusted and/or pay them 'back' for our meals even, so we can walk away guilt free. But still I'm angry they have assumed we would be going or want to force us to change our plans, whatever we're seen as the bad people in this and being made to feel like it atm by DH father.
AIBU and does anyone have any advice to fix this?!
DH has bipolar so actively avoids any confrontation to avoid any excess stress which doesn't help.
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graysquirrel · 02/10/2016 21:44
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