DS 8 was having some problems with 3 of his "friends" at school who play for a rival football team.
Ahead of a cup match, these boys were quite nasty to ds, resulting in them excluding him and refusing to let him sit down at the same lunch table.
I asked MN if I should speak with their mums, who I know or go to the school. The majority said I should not speak with the parents, but go into school if it escalated, some said leave it and tell DS to just sit elsewhere, which I asked him to do.
It did escalate, so I went to see the Head to nip it in the bud, she agreed that their behaviour was unacceptable and she spoke with these boys (and their parents) and the leader started crying as soon as he went into the heads office as he knew exactly what he was doing. To their credit they all admitted what they were doing. Head asked DS what a suitable sanction might be, DS being the boy he is, said he didn't want them punished, he just wanted them to all be friends again, because its silly falling out over football. Head told him he had done the right thing and praised his maturity.
A week later we were at an activity and one of these mums blanked me, saw her again this weekend and again she blanked me, so I approached her and asked her if there was an issue... She told me she was annoyed with me for not coming to her first and furthermore two of the other mums felt the same
No mention of how DS might be so I told her that ds was fine if she was interested and that it was actually 4 boys against one and it was happening at school so needed dealing with at school...
My gut instinct was to approach the mums, but MN said it wasn't the right thing to do... so I listened
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Bookeatingboy · 02/10/2016 08:23
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