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AIBU?

to have tealights burning in reach of my toddler?

131 replies

BayLeaves · 01/10/2016 11:53

He is 2.5 and I have told him not to touch them. They are on the coffee table which is not in the middle of the room so they can't be knocked over by accident (although they could be knocked over on purpose).

He has come to look at them and I've told them it could burn him or set his clothes on fire, he seems to understand and is leaving them alone.

(The reason I want them on is because it helps make the room nice and warm. )

I'm sure this is really terrible and dangerous through hence the AIBU?!

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Marmalade85 · 01/10/2016 11:53

Extremely dangerous. Are they covered?

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SnookieSnooks · 01/10/2016 11:55

Is this for real?

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hazeyjane · 01/10/2016 11:55

It is too risky.

If you had an open fire or wood burner, I assume you would have a fire guard to prevent accidents.

A naked flame and a toddler is not a good combo.

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TallulahTheTiger · 01/10/2016 11:56

Extremely dangerous. Is the warmth the main factor for them?

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gettingitwrongputingitright · 01/10/2016 11:56

Wow thats really dangerous. Personally I dont have candles burning with little ones about. My youngest is nearly 4. I would have candles on with 7 year old if okder sib or adult in room at all times.

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Starlight234 · 01/10/2016 11:57

yes beacuse a 2 year old doesn't really understand burning himself will hurt, a 2 year old does not have impulse control.

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harderandharder2breathe · 01/10/2016 11:57

Yabu

A two year old shouldn't be near naked flames.

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Wolfiefan · 01/10/2016 11:57

Candles won't warm up your house.
If you are prepared to sit and watch your child then fine. But what about if you pop to the toilet or go and get a drink?
Don't be daft.

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Artandco · 01/10/2016 11:57

I wouldn't have tealights, but we have always had large pillar candles inside large glass hurricane vases. They can't be brushed by or knocked into

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ageingrunner · 01/10/2016 11:57

It is rather dangerous, yes. Obviously!

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MoggyP · 01/10/2016 11:57

Yeah right.

Of course it's fine to leave toddlers with naked flames within reach.

I mean, how could anyone possibly be confused about it? Just like it's fine to leave them with sharp knives, household chemicals and dogs.

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gettingitwrongputingitright · 01/10/2016 11:58

Get a heater for warmth.

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AnyFucker · 01/10/2016 11:58

Yeah, right. Whaddeva.

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Chinks123 · 01/10/2016 11:58

Much too dangerous. DD is 3 and knows the iron is very hot and not to touch. I still would never leave it anywhere near her, curiosity usually gets the better of them even if they know it's wrong.

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NoTractorsAtTheTable · 01/10/2016 11:58

Naked flames and toddlers don't mix. It's just not worth it.

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Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 · 01/10/2016 11:58

Your house will be lovely and warm when it is on fire with you and your child inside.
Beyond stupid imo.

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WatchingFromTheWings · 01/10/2016 11:59

Extremely dangerous. My youngest is 5 and I still put candles up out of his way.

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Deux · 01/10/2016 12:00

Don't be so silly.

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TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 01/10/2016 12:00

be lovely and toasty when he decides to lean over them and set himself alight

ffs woman catch yourself on.

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EveOnline2016 · 01/10/2016 12:00

Are you for fucking real.

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JellyBelli · 01/10/2016 12:00

He has no idea what you are talking about, and no understanding of the risk Confused

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AGruffaloCrumble · 01/10/2016 12:01

This must be a reverse.

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Youarenotprepared · 01/10/2016 12:01

Your house will be lovely and warm when it is on fire with you and your child inside.

This. If you are light enough tealights for it to make any difference to the temperature then you are in an incredibly dangerous situation. Toddlers have no impulse control and are naturally boisterous.

Could you ever forgive yourself if they got burnt? I would say the probability is high.

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honeysucklejasmine · 01/10/2016 12:02

Warmth from a tealight?

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RortyCrankle · 01/10/2016 12:02

I'm sure Social Services will be very understanding of you wanting to keep your room nice and warm when you take your child to A&E having been burned with hot wax Hmm

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