to be upset about being filmed by a teenager in the street?

(98 Posts)
sugarcoat21 Fri 30-Sep-16 09:53:29

I've just walked my 7yr old to school and a secondary school school pupil filmed both of us as she walked past with her friend. As they went past the girl holding the phone said "it's outstanding" in a sort of game show tone if you know what I mean. Obviously they were taking the piss out of me. After they passed I shouted, did you just film us but they were to busy watching it back to hear. My 7yr old was confused by what had happened and asked me if they had filmed him because he looks funny! I assured him they were just silly girls. I'm worried what will happen with the video now, I don't want my son and I possibly plastered on the net in these circumstances.

I called the school who said without a name they couldn't do anything so I'm considering calling the police. Am I over reacting?

JaneA1 Fri 30-Sep-16 09:59:29

I think they were just fooling around. If I saw a video of a mother and her child just walking to school, I would think of it as boring. I know it can be frustrating, but some kids are like this.

HeyNannyNanny Fri 30-Sep-16 10:00:46

You'd be massively overreacting to call the police!

Purplepicnic Fri 30-Sep-16 10:02:39

It's not an offence to film someone in a public place so I doubt the police would be interested. Just silly girls, try and forget about it.

eternalopt Fri 30-Sep-16 10:02:54

Sorry, but yeah, I think you are. What do you expect the police to do? No crime has been committed. Anyone can film or photo anyone on the street - there's no law against it. People often don't believe that and think you need permission, but it's not true. Otherwise, the paparazzi wouldn't make a living

FranHastings Fri 30-Sep-16 10:03:03

Was it definitely of you? Could they have been doing a selfie video?

SallyR0se Fri 30-Sep-16 10:05:15

Thing is with Snapchat etc it's only the beginning... Kids will be videoing / Youtubing everything in future. So it's something that be in your son's world very soon. I struggle to understand it, but it's the norm for young folk. Wouldn't take any notice.
Funny, film crews etc have to ask permission when filming in public. But I think, sooner than we think, it will seem strange not to be filmed all the time...

NerrSnerr Fri 30-Sep-16 10:05:38

It's not against the law to film someone in public so no idea what the police would do. It's just a child being daft.

You are completely overreacting.

Goldenhandshake Fri 30-Sep-16 10:11:23

I thin you are overreacting and I actually think they were more than likely doing a selfie video on snap chat rather than filming you. Much more likely.

sugarcoat21 Fri 30-Sep-16 10:17:14

They were definitely filming us as I could tell by the position of the phone and how she turned it as we passed.

It was the school who recommended I contact the police.

If it's ok for them to film us am I ok to take a photo of them as I walk to school on Monday ?

wasonthelist Fri 30-Sep-16 10:21:46

If it's ok for them to film us am I ok to take a photo of them as I walk to school on Monday ?

Yes it is 100% to do this in a public place, despite what many people mistakenly believe.

BadLad Fri 30-Sep-16 10:21:48

If it's ok for them to film us am I ok to take a photo of them as I walk to school on Monday ?

In theory, yes. But in practice people will probably lynch you for being a peadophile.

wasonthelist Fri 30-Sep-16 10:22:40

Funny, film crews etc have to ask permission when filming in public.

No they don't.

pictish Fri 30-Sep-16 10:28:57

Well I wouldn't have been happy. I despise the public shaming that goes on the internet. Innocent people being made a laughing stock with no say in the matter at all. It's a dreadful, spiteful practice.

ProseccoBitch Fri 30-Sep-16 10:32:36

I'd have confronted them at the time, I don't think there's anything you can do unless you see them again.

LurkingHusband Fri 30-Sep-16 10:32:37

Well I wouldn't have been happy. I despise the public shaming that goes on the internet.

That's a separate matter.

Perfectly legal to film - but what gets done with the film is subject to a variety of potential issues.

Also it may not be unlawful to film someone in public generally. But if it is done as part of a campaign of harassment, then anti-harassment laws might apply.

sugarcoat21 Fri 30-Sep-16 10:34:13

Badlad I would definitely feel like I'd be lynched if I took their photos to ID them. Which is exactly why even though I could I wouldn't dare to.

sugarcoat21 Fri 30-Sep-16 10:39:53

ProseccoBitch I would of loved to of taken the phone from them but I refrained. What could I of done differently? I was aware they were filming so I wanted to give them as little reaction as I could. What should I do next time I see them?

ProseccoBitch Fri 30-Sep-16 10:42:15

I wouldn't have taken the phone from them, I'd have gone over to them and said I wasn't happy being filmed and asked them to delete it there and then with me watching. I appreciate you might have been in a rush and not able to do this though. Maybe if you see them again go over and say you know they were filming you yesterday/other day/whenever and ask them to delete it then if they still have it?

HelloSunshines Fri 30-Sep-16 10:42:52

Are you sure they were actually filming you or could the girl just have been holding up her phone to show her friend something?

It would be odd if they didn't even look at you afterwards, if they were brazen enough to film you there would likely have been smirks or looking back at you, but you said they were too busy playing it back to hear?

Also (TBH) why would you think they were taking the piss out of you? Are you self conscious about your appearance to the degree you think they are filming it and it would be such a funny clip you would be plastered all over the net? And ringing the police, to say what?

In conclusion I think it likely that they weren't filming you, but for some reason you feel your appearance warrants taking the piss out of online which has upset you to such a degree you want to contact the police about it. I think possibly (in the nicest way) you are maybe projecting some of your insecurities. There's nothing outstanding or viral-worthy of a mum walking her son to school.

ProfYaffle Fri 30-Sep-16 10:45:48

Are you sure they weren't playing Pokemon Go? Dh had an incident the other week when someone thought he was filming them but he was actually trying to catch an imaginary creature. hmm

HelloSunshines Fri 30-Sep-16 10:48:02

X post. You seem sure they were filming you and the school suggested ringing the police.

I can totally understand that you wouldn't like being filmed like that (I wouldn't either) but then I would think "what exactly can they do with it? Most boring film ever, ordinary mum walks son to school. confused Hardly the most outstanding clip of anything. Not likely to be plastered on the internet.

If you see them again and they appear to be filming I personally wouldn't give a reaction, or ask them about it as that maybe would be share-worthy (amongst the idiots of the world) IYSWIM. I would just mentally make more detailed note of their descriptions and ring the school again.

Butteredparsn1ps Fri 30-Sep-16 10:48:33

Was just about to suggest Pokemon Go but the Prof beat me to it.

insancerre Fri 30-Sep-16 10:49:19

Massive over reaction
Ever heard of cctv?

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