Second hand smoke

(19 Posts)
Icecreamcats Mon 26-Sep-16 23:38:14

I do not smoke.

I use to regularly go to my cousins flat which is a tiny studio with one small window and she lights up so I am clouded in her smoke, I have asked her recently when I am at her house if she does not mind smoking around me and she got annoyed and said don't come to her house then which I have not since even though she keeps inviting me. Even if we are going to a club I will sit in my car and wait for her and she makes a big thing about me rushing her and not coming inside but she refuses to not smoke around me.

My friend comes to my house and she does smoke outside the window but I can still smell it, My window is large and opens wide however will this smoke still affect me at all?
I told my friend she cannot do it anymore and she got annoyed as well.

I only just read up on how bad second hand smoke is I did not realise how bad it is.

If I choose not to smoke shouldn't people around me be respectful of that or am I being precious?

I don't think I

gamerchick Mon 26-Sep-16 23:41:31

Don't hang out with smokers. That's a choice you can make. It would be nice if people respected your boggle but ultimately you can choose to not be around it.

thehugemanatee Mon 26-Sep-16 23:44:45

Can't really tell people what to do in their own home.

Yorkieheaven Mon 26-Sep-16 23:52:54

Nope it's her home her rules. That's unreasonable. However you can stop her smoking at yours.

Shouldn't think second hand smoke would be a problem unless you were constantly exposed.

Mommawoo Mon 26-Sep-16 23:58:42

Respected your boggle?

Yorkieheaven Tue 27-Sep-16 00:02:30

Is that a current phrase? I like it. Please respect my boggle people. grin

LucyBabs Tue 27-Sep-16 00:04:14

No you're not being precious!
I am a smoker and I've had friends who never smoked telling me it's no problem to smoke in their kitchen, by the back door.. I won't do it. I don't smoke in my own home why the hell would I smoke in anyone elses?!
You're cousin and friend are arseholes sorry icecreamcats smile

Sammysamread34 Tue 27-Sep-16 00:35:07

LucyBabs. ...totally agree! I smoke, but do not smoke in my house, would never even think about smoking inside a non smokers house! shock

avamiah Tue 27-Sep-16 00:43:03

OP,
I grew up with 2 heavy smokers my mum and dad and i hate the smell of smoke.

Mozfan1 Tue 27-Sep-16 07:00:35

YABU to think you can tell your cousin what to do in her house but YANBU to not want people smoking in yours.

JustAnotherPoster00 Tue 27-Sep-16 07:03:51

OP an AIBU smoking thread?

Hope you have a hard hat ready

FayKorgasm Tue 27-Sep-16 07:04:39

YANBU to tell people not to smoke in your house but YABU and a bit dickish to tell your cousin what to do in their own home.

JustAnotherPoster00 Tue 27-Sep-16 07:04:58

Oh and YABU - her house her rules

YANBU - your house your rules

sonlypuppyfat Tue 27-Sep-16 07:05:49

I spent my entire childhood stinking of smoke, I couldn't see my mum for smoke sometimes. I absolutely loath it don't hang around with smokers selfish bastards

DiJiBiDi Tue 27-Sep-16 07:17:45

I don't smoke, plus in allergic to the smell it gives me breathing problems...

However she's in her own house she can smoke where she wants (it would be nice if she considered your "feelings") now at your house you can just say don't smoke in my house take it outside simple as that.

Alabastard Tue 27-Sep-16 07:20:25

My boggle is never respected.

Bountybarsyuk Tue 27-Sep-16 07:23:47

In the past, people used to go out in smoke-filled rooms pretty much all the time if they wanted to go out to pubs and clubs. There wasn't a smoke-free option, and it did used to make your clothes smell, but people did manage! We didn't all stay in for 40 years to keep away from the smoke.

Personally, I think the individual risks of second-hand smoke in public places have been exaggerated (having read the scientific literature) except where you are around it all day every day (say if you are the partner of a 40 a day smoker and sit indoors a lot), or for babies and small children who have restricted airways and have smoke in their own homes (which is different than having a whiff when out or walking in for 5 min). It increases SID syndrome as well.

I think your concern about the level of risk is skewed by the dislike of smoking, I'm not a smoker, I don't love being around smoke, but I'm not convinced that coming into contact with a bit of smoke is going to harm me, as if you were brought up in the 1970's, that was your childhood.

Elroya1 Tue 27-Sep-16 07:28:30

I am not sure just how bad the smoke really is, but I can tell you this: you have the right to value a relationship with someone more than a smoke. health issues aside, it is your home and your choice not to smell of cigarette smoke so anyone who wants to be around should respect that.

dustarr73 Tue 27-Sep-16 07:36:14

I think in your cousins case its her own house.

But your home is a different matter.My own home has been smoke feww for over 20 years.I just dont allow it.They used to go out teh back to smoke,but then i noticed it was in the kids bedroom upstairs.So now they smoke out the front.

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