DD has just started secondary school. She has gone up to secondary school with a group of friends that she spent most of her primary school years hanging round with. One of them, I'll refer to her as G, is very much the head of the group of friends and has been unkind to DD quite a bit over the years. Mainly low level nastiness such as telling others in the group not to talk to DD, or making fun of DD and getting others to laugh at her. She is very manipulative.
G's mum is, unfortunately, one of those mums who thinks her DD is absolutely perfect and is the first to get on the phone to, or approach, the mum of any child who has made a tiny or perceived slight towards her child. I have heard of it happening many a time throughout primary school, and she has phoned me a couple of times in the past about things such as my DD not being her DD's partner in PE and her DD being upset.
Anyway, today it's G's birthday and she has had a huge party/disco in a hall, followed by a sleepover with several friends. She has told DD since they went back to school 3 weeks ago that she was inviting everyone except DD, as she doesn't want DD there. And true to her word she invited the rest of their friendship group, as well as every other new friend DD has made at secondary school. And didn't invite DD.
This in itself was upsetting enough for DD. However all through the party this evening G has repeatedly sent DD texts with photos of her and all of DD's friends having fun at the party with captions such as "I love my besties". She also tried to facetime DD several times throughout the party, presumably to rub it in DD's face that she wasn't there! DD sensibly ignored the texts and calls, but was understandably very upset.
I am so angry about it all and feel like giving this girl's mum a call or a text tomorrow just to let her know about how upset DD is by G's behaviour. Especially as the mum is always the first person to complain and to kick up a huge fuss if her DD is upset.
WIBU to contact the mum? I don't want to make things worse for DD.
AIBU?
To want to tell this girl's mum about how nasty she has been to DD?
MurphyJim · 24/09/2016 23:16
I wouldn't. Time for your DD to make kinder friends. Can your DD block this girl's calls etc? Any nastiness at school then school can deal with it. If the mother questions the blocking then calmly explain why. I'm afraid if she has spent 11 years thinking the sun shines out of her offspring then you telling her your child is upset won't disillusion her.
Horrid behaviour though. 
Screen shot the nasty comments. I would spk to Mum but like others have said that behaviour doesn't come from nowhere and I doubt she would be your best ally. Might be worth letting tutor know so they can keep an eye out for her at school. Also wtf with messaging during the party, can't have been that exciting!! I would also arrange a low key sleepover or meet up soon to build new friendships. Total ignoring of the bully will probably infuriate her, she so wants a reaction 
for your daughter.
Judging by the mothers previous behaviour she is obviously a cunt and is passing on her cuntish behaviour to her precious little brat
Horrible behaviour, for your DD x
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