Just do it yourself then!

[GunnyHighway]

DP and I share most of the house work, childcare etc although we also have bits that are ours (DP cooks I wash up, DP sorts out kids in the morning I get them in the evening).

There is one thing that is beginning to drive me nuts. After I load the dishwasher, tumble dryer or the washing line DP will within 5 mins of me finishing start moving stuff around eg hanging the washing differently or taking some of the drying out.

WIBU to stop doing these jobs if I'm doing it "wrong"? For clarity I was single for many years and managed to dry my stuff have clean plates.

[petitfromage]

I do that to my dh. Welcome to the wonderful world of relationships.
The other day I pointed out to my dh that he cuts onions the wrong way. Drives me crackers.

[80sWaistcoat]

Exactly the same thing here. So I have stepped back a bit as it's infuriating to be told I'm wrong...I don't think it even registers with him that he's done it.

But it makes my blood boil if I'm in the wrong mood. And yes I lived alone for years and coped fine...

[PacificOcean]

Sorry yes, I do it to my DH too. I just can't bear to see the dishwasher loaded the 'wrong' way! Don't take it personally.

[DontBuyANewMumCashmere]

I'm the same with the dishwasher. He cannot load it efficiently at all! So I'm always fiddling around after he's dumped shit in there!
Oh and if he hangs things up on the airer. It's often crumpled and will dry creased or slower, or inside out

Basically I'm a control freak.

[ItsJustNotRight]

Yep, me too. He just likes things done his way. If he around when I'm cooking, doing dishwasher etc. I just say are you going to this again if I do it? DH is lovely but just thinks his way is right. It drives me potty but we have survived 30+yrs together. I quite often do things just to wind him up to remind him he can't have his way all the time. Don't get me started on cutting bread... I could run a whole thread on that!

[TheProblemOfSusan]

Yabu OP, that would drive me round the bend as well.

That said.... I do it to my husband but I have never ever seen anyone who can fill a dishwasher with such a small amount of stuff. He can put three teaspoons and a pan in there and fill all the bloody space.

He's awful with cupboards too, and his mother says he was rubbish at stacking even in kindergarten so I feel COMPLETELY justified.

I suspect you are doing it just fine and he's being UR.

[KathArtic]

You can't just 'peg-and-go'

I move bits around my line as the sun moves round so they get equal 'sun', and I re-peg during the drying process so the pegged area gets equal drying - otherwise you end up with damp bits. Maybe that's what you DH is doing.

[SquedgieBeckenheim]

I do the same to DH when he hangs the washing out. But I have OCD about matching pegs and it drives me nuts! He now will only hang washing out when I'm out all day.
The rest I just got used to him doing thing "wrong" (in my eyes). He's had to do the same!

[GabsAlot]

oh im always told im doing it wrong

do it yourself then an dont moan

[GunnyHighway]

kath if it was just that I wouldn't be bothered at all. It is as soon as I'm finished and she thinks I'm not watching pegging out, she's out there adjusting waist band pegging returning things around moving according to size.

[RhiWrites]

Just hand her the basket and say "I know you like to hang it yourself" and let her crack on.

[liz70]

"You can't just 'peg-and-go'

I move bits around my line as the sun moves round so they get equal 'sun', and I re-peg during the drying process so the pegged area gets equal drying - otherwise you end up with damp bits. Maybe that's what you DH is doing."

What a faff. I don't do any of that, and the washing still gets dry.
I do however insist on matching pegs on each garment. DH does this too now as he knows better to not do.

[Touchacat]

My DH is awful at hanging washing. I definitely have to rehang. And he didn't cope before we lived together because he would often wonder why his freshly washed clothes smelt damp. They don't anymore as I do the laundry

[LaundryFairy]

DH and I have completely different approaches to loading the dishwasher so, as far as is possible, only one of us loads it at a time and the other stays well out of it. We both prefer our own way of doing things, and just have to accept that the there is more than one 'right' way to do everything. Perhaps OP and their DP could come to a similar arrangement?