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If you were a hiring manager and someone sent you a thank you emaik

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user1474645485 · 23/09/2016 19:05

...after an interview. What would be your reaction.

If you met someone who had the experience and qualifications for the job but simply didn't perform well in interview due to nerves and it being their first professional job interview, and subsequently didn't get the position. Then sent an email after the interview thanking you and the other interviewer for interviewing them, saying they were glad we managed to find a suitable candidate and could he have feedback as he genuinely wanted to work for our team in the future and would like to improve. It was a fairly long email, about 300 words. I've never heard of someone thanking someone for an interview they were rejected for in this way. The person only spoke briefly on the phone when told he had not been successful and spoke only to say he was disappointed and unfortunely nervous on he day.

The person found the email address from a colleague who once worked at the company and the email wasn't given out at any stage of the process.

Would you be put off or would you be impressed?

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mrssmith79 · 23/09/2016 19:09

It wasn't a 'thank you email', it was a very polite request for feedback.
Employ some professionalism and provide it (constructively) rather than deliberating about it.

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AmeliaJack · 23/09/2016 19:09

The purpose of the email should be to request interview feedback.

It should briefly thank them for their time and ask for feedback for personal development.

That's pretty common and standard.

300 words is much too long.

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WrongEndoftheTelescope · 23/09/2016 19:12

Perfectly normal in my field. Sounds a very good email, and you should answer it politely, honestly & helpfully. It's a standard professional thing - to request feedback on the one hand, and give constructive, honest & useful feedback on the other.

The candidate sounds like a good potential colleague, actually.

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Wigeon · 23/09/2016 19:14

It sounds like a completely appropriate request for feedback. I'd be impressed that they bothered asking. I'd forgive it being 300 words if they were young and inexperienced and be impressed they wanted to learn from the experience.

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DreamingofItaly · 23/09/2016 19:14

I hired a chap recently who interviewed at my company 2 years ago (before me) for a very similar position. The feedback was "you don't have xyz experience so you didn't get the job". He went out, got this experience, came back and here we are, 3 months in and he's blinking awesome!!

Interviewees should feel a lot more comfortable sending emails thanking interviewers and requesting feedback. How else do you learn for next time?

Give constructive feedback and invite him to apply again in the future.

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PassTheCremeEggs · 23/09/2016 19:14

This is pretty standard surely, albeit in this case probably too long.

Why would you be put off by it?

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PatronSaintOfNothing · 23/09/2016 19:14

You've never had a request for feedback before??

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Statelychangers · 23/09/2016 19:15

I'd think it was a polite request for feedback and I think you should provide it. I'd not be put off or impressed it's simply part of the process.

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LabMonkey · 23/09/2016 19:16

Request for feedback is normal but I have had an email straight after the interview thanking me (before we had decided) and I found that a bit weird.

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rollonthesummer · 23/09/2016 19:18

Are you the interviewer or interviewee?

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user1474645485 · 23/09/2016 19:21

It seemed more like a thank you
Note rather than a feedback request. I was super impressed. I'm ready to
Give this guy another chance

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chinam · 23/09/2016 19:28

That's great. We all need to get a start somewhere.

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topcat2014 · 23/09/2016 19:38

I don't really get this desire for feedback. If I don't get the job, my response is (to myself) fuck 'em - and I therefore no longer value their opinion.

maybe that's just me

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alfagirl73 · 23/09/2016 19:39

I'd definitely be impressed - shows that the person really wants to work there and is willing to put in effort to do so. Also shows initiative, professionalism and motivation.

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ClopySow · 23/09/2016 19:45

I'd be very impressed

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GahBuggerit · 23/09/2016 19:46

i got my dream job by doing this.

find it odd to not want feedback to see where you may have gone wrong for the next interview but each to their own

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alltouchedout · 23/09/2016 19:46

I'd think they were American tbh

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mrszc · 23/09/2016 19:49

So you're going to employ him?

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HellsBellsnBucketsofBlood · 23/09/2016 20:07

I send thank you'd after interviews. It's only polite since they took the time to see me.

But he would like some feedback too. Smile

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DoNotBlameMeIVotedRemain · 23/09/2016 20:11

Is the position filled? Could you invite him back for second interview? Or you could say you will keep him on file if another suitable post crops up.

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dahliaaa · 23/09/2016 20:16

Very standard in my line of work. I would give them helpful constructive advice.

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Bubblebloodypop · 23/09/2016 20:17

I'd be impressed too. I'm rooting for him to get the job now.

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KimmySchmidtsSmile · 23/09/2016 20:20

I'd be impressed, give proper tips for the criteria missed (especially if box ticking) and keep them in mind for future vacancies.

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Pisssssedofff · 23/09/2016 20:24

I like the imitative of hunting down the email address too

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Damselindestress · 24/09/2016 09:51

Request for feedback is normal but I have had an email straight after the interview thanking me (before we had decided) and I found that a bit weird.

Oh dear, I've done that before. I thought it was standard to thank the interviewer for their time and consideration. I saw it on a site about interview etiquette but maybe the site was American and it's not the done thing here? I hope no one thought I was being weird and pushy!

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