Can't decide what to do! Help!

(13 Posts)
whattodowiththepoo Fri 23-Sep-16 10:10:22

I have the opportunity to do something special for a family member, it would involve putting something she needs and really wants in her house.
It would be a complete surprise but I have just thought that maybe it isn't ok to let myself in to her house?
I have only ever done it when she has asked me to in the past and never of my own volition.
Should I take it to her house, go directly to the room (about 15feet away from the front door) put it down and leave or should I keep out of her house and drop it off at an arranged time when she is home?
We are very close family and it would mean a lot that I made the effort of sorting it out for her.
HALP!

dowhatnow Fri 23-Sep-16 10:18:05

Wait till she is home. You'll also get to see her reaction.

traviata Fri 23-Sep-16 10:38:33

Totally don't let yourself in to her house.

Make an arrangement with her. She will still be pleased and happy that you got it for her.

By taking it round when she's out, you want the extra excitement of a big surprise - but at the expense of her privacy.

whattodowiththepoo Fri 23-Sep-16 10:45:52

I understand, thanks!

Lizaveta Fri 23-Sep-16 10:46:58

I think depends what gift is and if it more effective to see it inside or not really. Maybe you could make up something like needing to borrow something while she working and ask is it okay. Then later she sees the surprise?

harverina Fri 23-Sep-16 11:02:21

I personally wouldn't mind a close family member going in my house to deliver a surprise but everyone is different.

Queenbean Fri 23-Sep-16 11:04:58

You have to tell us what it is!

If it's installing a stairlift that is a bit intrusive smile

Can you text and make up a reason for needing to pop in? Maybe your passing her house and need the toilet or a drink as you have come over a bit light headed?
Otherwise just wait until she is in

blueskyinmarch Fri 23-Sep-16 11:10:03

Could you think of a valid reason, that she knows about, to go to her house while she is out? You could do the valid thing and pop the surprise in at the same time.

HereIAm20 Fri 23-Sep-16 11:11:48

Read the MIL bought me a TV thread!

Are you sure it is definitely what the family member needs and really wants? The thread I refer to was because the OP and her husband wanted a certain size and brand but MIL bought a smaller different brand. The OP ended up more upset at having a gift she didn't want.

If you are sure I would arrange to go round (or arrange with another family member who lives there or goes there to show up with the gift).

Personally I am always up for a surprise present.

What a nice person you are.

MiddleClassProblem Fri 23-Sep-16 11:12:12

I'm picturing a grand piano

HereIAm20 Fri 23-Sep-16 11:12:42

Just saw your user name - hope that isn't the present! grin

BastardGoDarkly Fri 23-Sep-16 11:15:23

If I was cast iron sure she wanted it, and we were very close (I'm thinking of my Mam close) I'd let myself in.

But yes, what is it?!

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