AIBU to put concealer on my 5yr old?

(30 Posts)
amysmum18 Thu 22-Sep-16 14:52:22

DD who is 5 managed to walk smack bang into a metal railing the other day and is now sporting a massive bruise in the middle of her forehead. It's school photo day on Tuesday and she's due to be getting a single picture and one with her younger brother.

I'm assuming that this bruise will be at the really obvious purple / yellowish stage by Tuesday, so am trying to decide between using a bit of concealer to try and disguise it / make it look less obvious in the pictures or whether to leave her with the massive shiner on her forehead to give us all something to chuckle about in years to come when she's looking back at her school photos (or I'm showing them all off to her future boyfriends!)

ragz134 Thu 22-Sep-16 14:56:34

Can you do her hair to cover it? Concealer would probably smudge or just look dodgy!

Namechangenurseryconcerns Thu 22-Sep-16 14:58:13

If you ask the photographer may be able to photoshop it out.

MiaowTheCat Thu 22-Sep-16 15:08:58

They photoshopped DD1's shiner when she managed to do this for her first ever nursery photo... she fell over and banged her eye once, then decided to do exactly the same thing again to make sure of a corking bruise (at nursery so at least they knew what had happened)!

Changingagain Thu 22-Sep-16 15:16:53

I'd just let her be photographed as she is. My Mum used to put concealer on me for dance competitions and it made me feel awful, like I wasn't good enough and needed fixing. My Mum was embarrassed by me and I knew it. That was for spots rather than a bruise but I still wouldn't risk making her feel like that unless she is actually asking you to help disguise it.

RhodaBorrocks Thu 22-Sep-16 15:25:36

My DS had chapped lips I could do nothing about one year. The photo arrived with them photoshopped out, he had very rosy lips, but none of the bright pink surrounding them.

It depends on the company though. Find out who it is and give them a call when you get the order form so you know what reference number the picture has.

Huppopapa Thu 22-Sep-16 15:28:33

I'd think it was bloody wonderful to have a school photo where she stands out as the child who was adventurous and proud enough to both smack her head and then not worry about how it looked. That would be one to cherish long after the bland ones have faded from memory.

BarbarianMum Thu 22-Sep-16 15:29:58

You could and I wouldn't judge you. But when you have the full collection of school photos over the years you might appreciate the one with the bruise because it brings back very specific memories (I have one like this which marks the first and last time my mum got to cut my fringe). smile

I posted this exact thread 3 years. My DS fell off his bike and banged his chin leaving him with an inch wide haematoma. It looked like a big, purple egg on his chin. I was so upset that he was going to have a big bruise on his picture. Now, we have stories to tell as DD fell a year later and cut her face so that shows too! hey didn't offer photoshopping either time and I didn't expect them to.

Frusso Thu 22-Sep-16 15:33:45

i've done it for dd. more than once.

she fell over on school outside equipment on the first day of reception class and had a huge bruise /graze across her entire forehead for weeks.

i've now taken to buying the digital copy and photoshopping her wotsit crumbs on her face, thanks to photos straight after lunch minor stuff out. I don't however photoshop her think harry potter style scar out.

user1473282350 Thu 22-Sep-16 15:40:19

Arnica is your friend. Get some arnica capsules now - and lots and lots of the arnica gel (not the cream). You shouldn't see any bruise on Tuesday if you start now.

Letmesleepalready Thu 22-Sep-16 15:40:40

My mum has just given me my first ever school photo with a big bruise on my forehead. I thought it was a right of passage to have at least one bruise on photo day grin

Leave it. School photos are a record of who they are, not perfect little angels! My favourite picture of DD is her screaming at Santa!

TwatbadgingCuntfuckery Thu 22-Sep-16 15:44:03

no! leave her as she is. Bruise and all.

When she's getting married or whatever life event you can dig that picture out and have a cracking story about how she managed not to do the same now. If you edit it out with concealer or photoshop you lose it.

Fidelia Thu 22-Sep-16 15:44:04

If you try and hide it with concealer, the school may have concerns that you're trying to hide it for other reasons.

LouBlue1507 Thu 22-Sep-16 15:45:28

If I was teacher, I'd be suspicious of a parent who put concealer over a bruise/mark on their child. Alarm bells would ring, just saying.

Buzzardbird Thu 22-Sep-16 15:48:07

It will get photoshopped. Concealer will make it look worse anyway with the flash off the camera... and she shouldnt feel that her bruise needs to be covered anyway.

TwigletsMakeMeViolent Thu 22-Sep-16 15:49:29

"If you try and hide it with concealer, the school may have concerns that you're trying to hide it for other reasons."

Wouldn't it be obvious she's done it for the photo day? Presumably she's not going to send her in with concealer on Monday, too!

I agree with leaving it - will be a great story to tell.

bloomburger Thu 22-Sep-16 15:53:56

Am appalled that kids bruises from everyday bumps and scrapes are being airbrushed out!

Are people really so bothered about their kids looking perfect?

Frusso Thu 22-Sep-16 15:54:44

I'd be suspicious of a parent who put concealer over a bruise/mark on their child. Alarm bells would ring, just saying.
considering op says she did it the other day, the teacher would already be fully aware that dd has a mahoosive bruise, so covering it next week on photo day wouldn't be ringing any alarm bells, teacher might think op was being a bit precious because of photos, but would be fully aware that child has been to school with bruise uncovered for at least 3 days before it was covered up

Buzzardbird Thu 22-Sep-16 15:57:53

I agree bloom, it is a little disturbing the current trend with perfection.

Buzzardbird Thu 22-Sep-16 15:58:28

...which is more than can be said for my grammar in that post. blush

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Thu 22-Sep-16 16:05:14

At my sons' secondary the photographer sent a note home with the school photos reminding parents they could photo edit out spots or blemishes.
I thought it was quite sad, as if parents were confirming that they thought their child's face wasn't good enough for a photo. sad

hazeyjane Thu 22-Sep-16 16:06:40

This reminds me of my school photo from the age of 6, I had cut my cheek open with a rusty nail not long before, it had had to be stitched, and I looked like scarface. My mum put some bright orange hide n heal concealer on (love 1970s makeup - choice of colour orange or browny orange), which just made me look as though I had a small pile of red leicester cheese stuck to my face. It is an awesome photo.

I would just stick with the bruise.

NotAPuffin Thu 22-Sep-16 16:08:10

I'd leave it for laughing at later.

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