I've just called the police for my neighbour

(110 Posts)
MsJamieFraser Wed 21-Sep-16 22:14:22

Dh coming home from work and sees our neighbour running out her house with him screaming at her, but because she seen dh, she ran straight back in the house, this was 5 ish, neighbour was sobbing her heart out.

All night we have heard raised voices, and loud banging etc... We know they have kids but didn't hear them, so assumed they where out.. However dh didn't want to call the police as so far we only heard their raised voices and loud bangs, until we heard the kids crying hysterically.

She will know it's us, but it was game over once we heard the kids, we know he has a history of depression, however it's been 5 long hours.

MsJamieFraser Wed 21-Sep-16 22:14:59

Sorry her dh was screaming at her, not my dh.

BastardGoDarkly Wed 21-Sep-16 22:16:32

Oh bloody hell. You've absolutely done the right thing, have a brew

Musicaltheatremum Wed 21-Sep-16 22:17:13

You have done the right thing. Those poor kids. And of course your neighbour

Greendress123 Wed 21-Sep-16 22:18:20

You have done the right thing x

WhatTheActualFugg Wed 21-Sep-16 22:18:40

Are they there yet OP?

Can you hear both adults?

goodbyestranger Wed 21-Sep-16 22:18:48

Thanks for letting us know.

Why on earth would one of you not go and help her out? It must have been obvious hours ago that help was required - your DH could have gone, you could have called the police.

SarcasmMode Wed 21-Sep-16 22:18:52

Definitely done the right thing.

Those poor kids.

Frogers Wed 21-Sep-16 22:20:12

I think you've done the right thing.

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge Wed 21-Sep-16 22:21:24

GoodBye no one ever does anything, calling the police is a massive deal and the op should feel proud.

goodbyestranger Wed 21-Sep-16 22:25:26

I'm well aware people don't do enough ReallyShouldKnowBetter but I happen to think they should, and calling the police and then asking for congratulations immediately on MN certainly isn't anything to be 'proud' of. Quite shockingly self absorbed really. Feel sorry for the lot next door though, sounds a mess.

flippinada Wed 21-Sep-16 22:26:45

How awful, your poor neighbour and her poor kids sad

While instinct might be that OP and her DH should intervene, it could well have escalated the situation. Anyway, calling the police was the right thing to do. I hope they turn up soon.

PickAChew Wed 21-Sep-16 22:30:23

I expect OP is more seeking a handhold than congratulations, goodbye. Witnessing something like this is frightening, especially when you know you cannot safely do anything directly to make it all stop.

flippinada Wed 21-Sep-16 22:34:08

I don't think OP is boasting or looking for congratulations, more reassurance. This sort of event is actually quite shocking and scary, and people don't always react how they 'should' (whatever that means) or in the way you would expect.

ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge Wed 21-Sep-16 22:34:36

GodBye well done you for being well aware flowers poor op has been flung into a situation she didn't expect, did what she felt best and then posted for support.

Nothing self absorbed about that, I wish my then neighbours would have got involved to cal the police, dread to think what would have happened if the DH had tried to knock on the door shock

Prawnofthepatriarchy Wed 21-Sep-16 22:36:07

I'm sure you did the right thing, OP. You had no choice. Anything could have happened, and if something terrible happened you would never forgive yourself.

MsJamieFraser Wed 21-Sep-16 22:38:14

goodbye, hmm dh seen a snap shot moment, he was coming home from work, he didn't want to make assumptions, nor as she willingly entered back into her home, he did not think it correct to intervene.

Possibly we should have called earlier, but we didn't. Poor call.. poor judgement, who knows.

Police are here now

PaulAnkaTheDog Wed 21-Sep-16 22:39:20

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WorraLiberty Wed 21-Sep-16 22:40:16

I would have called the Police too if my neighbours had been at it for 5 hours.

So what if they know it's you? Surely they don't think they're being reasonable to keep a loud argument up for that long?

flippinada Wed 21-Sep-16 22:40:32

Glad the police have turned up OP. Good on you and your DH for not being bystanders.

Nakupenda Wed 21-Sep-16 22:41:24

You've got my sympathies OP.

My neighbours scream at each other and the kids cry hysterically but I just have no idea what to do?? It's not often, once a week but it terrifies me and I feel if I called the police and they showed up and everything had calmed down I'd just look like an idiot confused when they do have a screaming match it doesn't last long as she storms out and drives off... and he proceeds to put the kids out in the back garden and wanders around with headphones on hmm

BackwardElephants Wed 21-Sep-16 22:41:49

How frightening for them, and you. And we'll done for calling the police.

TaterTots Wed 21-Sep-16 22:43:17

GoodbyeStranger - that sort of one-upmanship really isn't appropriate. OP could have put herself in danger too if she'd stormed in. Far better to let the police handle it.

OP, ignore the likes of GS. You did the right thing. I know what it's like as I had to do the same with my neighbours. You don't want to interfere, but when I saw their elder son (who can't have been more than 7) get his little brother out of the house to keep him safe, that went out of the window.

MsJamieFraser Wed 21-Sep-16 22:44:27

I'm not really bothered that's she knows it was me, I just hope it does not affect our relationship (she's really lovely) I feel I have broken her trust, but know I haven't, in fact I don't feel I have broken her trust but feel I have broken something with her.

Chala86 Wed 21-Sep-16 22:45:01

I think you did the right thing OP. I wish a neighbour had done this for me when I was younger. flowers

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