To do my husbands washing?

(186 Posts)
Mrsemcgregor Wed 21-Sep-16 13:57:08

I was chatting to a friend the other day and she was very surprised that I do my husbands washing. I had never even thought about it, I just bung all the washing in together. She mocked me a bit and said that my husband was a grown man and should do it himself, like I was being completely anti-feminist. Have I missed something here? Am I being a doormat by doing his washing?! It makes no sense to me to separate it out and expect him to do it himself.

NavyandWhite Wed 21-Sep-16 13:58:35

Uh oh OP.

Prepare for hell.

yes I do my husbands washing

rhiaaaaaaaannon Wed 21-Sep-16 13:58:35

Your friend is weird.

Mol1628 Wed 21-Sep-16 13:59:52

I do my husbands washing because I like doing it and it all goes in together.
He does loads of the cleaning and washing up though.

Ginmakesitallok Wed 21-Sep-16 14:00:06

I do it all together too - it would take longer to separate it. I also do 90% of the ironing. We're a team, I do stuff for him, he does stuff for me. He'll stick a load of washing on if he sees it needs put on.

Creativemode Wed 21-Sep-16 14:01:18

Of course yanbu.

KindergartenKop Wed 21-Sep-16 14:01:21

I do my husband's washing.
Sometimes he does mine!

AnotherUsernameBitesTheDust Wed 21-Sep-16 14:01:42

I do everyone's washing, it's all chucked in the basket together, and I want to spend as little time as possible handling my sons undies so I'm not going to start picking it all apart.

They put washes on too sometimes, and don't just do their own.

GlitteryFluff Wed 21-Sep-16 14:02:36

We're a team here and all jobs are usually to benefit us both ie I'll do the washing and everyone's stuff gets washed: he'll wash up and wash up everyone's stuff etc etc

MalbecAndLindt Wed 21-Sep-16 14:02:45

Yep I do OH but he'll also do some as well if needed.

user1473282350 Wed 21-Sep-16 14:03:53

We do family washing, whoever sees the baskets are full does the washing (we have a lights and a colours basket).

So no, YANBU.

Mrsemcgregor Wed 21-Sep-16 14:04:29

It just seems the easiest way to do it, if I am doing a dark load I am going to pick up all the dark clothes and put them in and save having the washing machine on more than it needs to be.

By no means do I think women should do their OH washing, but for me it doesn't make sense. I don't like to be seen as gullible for doing it!!

AmeliaJack Wed 21-Sep-16 14:05:08

Whoever does the washing puts in the whole families' wash in this house.

It would seem inefficient to run a half empty wahing machine.

Mrsemcgregor Wed 21-Sep-16 14:05:39

I will add that when I am working at the weekend my DH does wash loads and puts my stuff in with it, I would be a bit miffed if he left mine out and told me to do it myself!!

SpookyPotato Wed 21-Sep-16 14:05:55

I do it because it would be a faff to seperate, it just gets bunged in together.. It's hardly an effort!

DramaAlpaca Wed 21-Sep-16 14:06:13

Of course I do my husband's washing.

He does my ironing, so I think I got the best deal.

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface Wed 21-Sep-16 14:06:34

I used to but then he yelled at me because I accidently washed his wallet so I now refuse to do it.

Nice only having mine and DS's stuff to worry about.

TheNaze73 Wed 21-Sep-16 14:06:37

Whatever point your friend was trying to make, is lost on me. Surely it's economical to wash together & help each other. She sounds like hard work

TheWitTank Wed 21-Sep-16 14:07:23

I do everyone's washing -if it's in the washing bin it gets chucked in, I don't examine each thing to ascertain who it belongs to. If I'm out, DH will put a load on for the household too. I do most of the washing because I am home more often and it needs doing.

dementedpixie Wed 21-Sep-16 14:07:31

Mine and dh's washing is in the washing basket together so to avoid doing his I would need to separate it out which would be stupid and more time consuming. If there is space I will also add some clothes from Dd/ds's washing baskets so there may be 4 peoples washing in the machine at once shock

NeedaDiscoNap Wed 21-Sep-16 14:08:15

God no, your friend is being ridiculous. I do everyone's washing (me, DD, DH). It would be a pain in the arse to separate it. He does it from time to time too but generally that's one of my 'jobs'.

DH does all the cooking and the majority of the cleaning. I do some small day-to-day cleaning jobs, changing sheets, towels etc. and all the grocery shopping, childcare drop-offs and pick ups. I think I have the sweeter end of the deal to be honest!

Mrsemcgregor Wed 21-Sep-16 14:08:28

TheNaze, she can be hard work. Lots of rules in their house that tire me out just listening to them!

Topseyt Wed 21-Sep-16 14:08:36

I do all of the family washing in this house and I like it that way.

Why separate it all out individually? That makes no sense to me.

dementedpixie Wed 21-Sep-16 14:08:42

He does all the cooking though so it's swings and roundabouts really

ChickyDuck Wed 21-Sep-16 14:08:44

We both do each others washing...whoever is putting the load on collects all the darks or all the lights, regardless of who owns them, and puts them in! Obviously if it a special wash for something delicate, then no, but in general that's how we do it!

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