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My younger daughters 3rd birthday is fast approaching. A bit of background we have no grandparents - dead or estranged. We have little other extended family. There are no cousins of a similar age. I had a late miscarriage 18 months ago which made me retreat into a shell, I felt very withdrawn. I took dd to toddler groups but never stayed anywhere long and was unable to form any lasting friendships. For various reasons some to do with the miscarriage I avoided our very local toddler group.
Dd has just settled into a pre-school a mile away from where We live. She seems very happy, small group of 13. We also go to a stay and play group once a week there too. Although, I speak to most people there once again, I have not formed any of those types of mother relationships where you meet outside the group and all in all feel isolated but pushing through all of it for dd's sake. Dd tends to prefer playing with children who are 5 plus ( her older sister is 10). I met a nice lady there today and I think we could get along but it was her first time there today. I spoke to dh about a party for dd and said I feel a little awkward to invite children and their parents as I don't know them very well. We could have the party here at our house, we have plenty of room, large garden etc. Dh said not to bother as dd doesn't really interact with the children of her own age. This all seems a bit sad. He suggested Pizza Hut or somewhere like that, just the four of us, I had envisaged balloons and jelly and a squabble over pass the parcel. I recall it being a bit different for my older dd because she had settled into pre-school for longer by the time her birthday came around plus I had a circle of established friends and had a lovely 3rd birthday at the farm park. She had established friends because I had established friends, in reality I am only in touch with one of them now. All five of my friends have older children (I had dd2 later than my other friends). At a scrape, I could probably invite 5 or 6 children who I know the mothers slightly better, it all seems so awkward. It sounds awful but I have been pushing myself speaking to people knowing my dd's birthday is coming up, I just can't seem to form any more deeper friendships this time. Anyone been in a similar position? What would you do?
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My daughters 3rd birthday, it feels a bit sad not to have party
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monkeytree · 20/09/2016 20:47
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