To think this is considered more of a fetish than what it actually is?

(48 Posts)
BeingATwatItsABingThing Tue 20-Sep-16 20:41:12

So I am watching The Big Bang Theory as you do and Howard is happy because he "gets to have sex with a catholic school girl". This made me think, how is this deemed acceptable? How is it deemed socially acceptable to want to have sex with school girls?

It's easy enough to buy slutty school girl outfits and its openly talked about as a fetish but surely it shouldn't be a fetish or a fantasy? It isn't far off paedophilia in my opinion. Am I wrong?

lemonzest123 Tue 20-Sep-16 20:43:00

I do not think every man who has enjoyed his Mrs dressing up as a schoolgirl is a pedo. If he is actually banging schoolgirls, that's another story.

BeingATwatItsABingThing Tue 20-Sep-16 20:44:09

I'm not saying they are a paedophile but it seems an odd thing to find acceptable in my opinion.

Soubriquet Tue 20-Sep-16 20:44:15

The more you watch shows like this the more realise how wrong it is

For example how much Leonard keeps nagging and stalking Penny until she gives up and dates him

How much of a CockLodger Howard is. He continuously expects Bernadette to pick up the slack just like his mother did and look she does! Like a good little wife

BeingATwatItsABingThing Tue 20-Sep-16 20:45:47

I only used BBT as the example because I saw it and it made me think. I have seen it in many other things.

Yarboosucks Tue 20-Sep-16 20:46:47

I was once 18 and still at my convent…. so not necessarily pedo country!

SmilingButClueless Tue 20-Sep-16 20:51:05

I wonder if it's linked to when people first became aware of their own sexuality. So for teenage boys, the first girls they were likely to encounter in real life were probably in school uniform, so that's where the association comes from? But as they grow up they don't want to be involved with actual schoolgirls, but want the reminder of their youth iyswim?

I may be completely wrong though!

BeingATwatItsABingThing Tue 20-Sep-16 20:53:35

SmilingButClueless hmmm... That's an interesting take on it actually. I hadn't even thought of that.

I'm actually interested in views on this. I'm not sure where I stand really.

WingsofNylon Tue 20-Sep-16 21:19:03

I sort of see what yoy mean but as pp said, I think it is more likes to fullfilling a fantasy they had when they first came into their own sexuality. As for BUT while I love it I recently realised it is terrible for such comments. Never picked up on it till I watch a few seasons in a row when ill. Howard prays of girls and is always making inappropriate comments to Penny. Then in the episode where she finally stands up for her self and calls him out on it Leonard makes her feel guilty and she ends up apologizing to Howard!! I was not impressed.

WingsofNylon Tue 20-Sep-16 21:19:41

So many typos! Sorry.

Champagneformyrealfriends Tue 20-Sep-16 21:20:40

I think part of the joke is that Howard is Jewish and his mother disapproves of him having a non-Jewish partner.

couldntlovethebearmore Tue 20-Sep-16 21:35:29

When I first became aware of my sexuality boys wore school uniform.
Short trousers a cap and satchel would turn me off faster than you can say gross

MyWineTime Tue 20-Sep-16 23:01:27

Grown women dressed as slutty schoolgirls look nothing like actual schoolgirls.
I don't believe that it is remotely connected to paedophilia.
I don't know what counts as a socially acceptable fetish or fantasy - why do fantasies even have to be socially acceptable?
As long as the only people who are involved are consenting adults, then I don't believe that their sex life is anyone else's business.

MrsJayy Tue 20-Sep-16 23:18:43

Howard is a creepy fecker but adult women dressing as school girls isnt everybodies cuppa but its not anything to do with liking children its to do with fantasy and remembering what it is like to fancy girls at school. Have you got to the episode where Amy tricked sheldon into spanking her <shudder>

limitedperiodonly Tue 20-Sep-16 23:28:36

It's okay to want sex with a schoolgirl if you are also at school.

Otherwise, not so much

FluffyWuffyFuckYou Tue 20-Sep-16 23:30:49

Peoples fetishes and fantasies are their own affairs, what are we, the sex thought police?
If no-one is getting hurt and everyone is an adult, mind your own business.

RonaldMcDonald Tue 20-Sep-16 23:33:30

I think you are wrong in the vast vast vast vast majority of cases
Mostly it is either getting to sleep with their wife/partner as a hot whatever which is more exciting than the norm in their current sex life or it has some connotations of the hot sex they didn't have ( even if they had ever had the opportunity) at that age
Harmless as long as both consenting and dressing up play v common

MyKingdomForBrie Tue 20-Sep-16 23:33:30

This would not be paedophilia unless the girls were pre pubescent children. The 'fantasy' as far as I'm aware is not in any way related to such young children.

I don't know why the widespread misuse of this this word annoys me exactly but it does; I think because it plays down the true awfulness of genuine paedophilia.

BreconBeBuggered Tue 20-Sep-16 23:37:42

'Sexy' school uniforms aren't anything like real ones, are they? Anyone I've seen dressed up like that is all kitted out in skirts halfway up their arse, stockings covering substantial thighs and a face that's at least 35. Nothing wrong with that if it floats your boat.

limitedperiodonly Tue 20-Sep-16 23:38:26

But schoolgirls usually aren't adults FluffyWuffyFuckYou.

It's normal for schoolboys to want sex with schoolgirls but if you were significantly older than them I would take a dim view of it.

EveOnline2016 Tue 20-Sep-16 23:41:59

there kink is not my kink as long as it legal and consensual then crack on.

powershowerforanhour Tue 20-Sep-16 23:45:38

Hollie McNish's "Cupcakes or Scones" on youtube sums up my thoughts about this.

Bananasinpyjamas1 Wed 21-Sep-16 00:12:10

I do wonder if this is something we will look back on with unease, like 70s sexist banter. I mean, if a woman said her fantasy was to have her lover look like a 13 year old schoolboy I'd think it was a bit wrong.

GrimDamnFanjo Wed 21-Sep-16 00:20:13

I once read somewhere that the UK was the only place with gas mask fetishes ? As a result of WW2 apparently.

DadWasHere Wed 21-Sep-16 00:47:03

It's normal for schoolboys to want sex with schoolgirls

Yes, when they are dressed like teachers.

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