So last year after a few years of intense pressure in his job (redundancy, change of jobs, bullying etc) it all came to a head, he was finally diagnosed as having depression and anxiety - This was honestly the worst year of my life with him (been together 16 yrs, have a house and 1 ds).
If he ever watches ds 9 times out of 10 he will take him to his mums (he says its so they can see him, but its actually so she can watch him whilst dp sits on his phone), and yet even though he does this ds adores the ground he walks on still. he could play throwing teddies here and ds has the best time, just because his dad is actually playing with him.
So during his time with depression he did quite a few of the self help courses available, he was also assigned a counsellor to help him focus on him for a while, I was all for it as anything was better than him sitting on the couch day after day sharing politics things on facebook (my family started to ask what was wrong with him!), so he decided he would like to go back to college to study (hes 40 soon), he had no idea what but after volunteering with some artists over the summer he decided on art.
He started college last week and although hes loving the course, i can't help feeling this isnt what i signed up for at all with him... he has found a new group of friends who are all around 18-25, heavily into art and visit art galleries, the old dp would come in and say come on i'm taking you out for a meal, now though he came in at the weekend and asked if wed like to go to an art exhibition (this is all he seems to want to do) when i asked what it was about - he said "It's about the impact HIV has had on society" err no then thanks.
This is half a joke thread as it seems so ridiculous but ds started reception last week, dp came with me on the first day to take him but would now prefer to stay in bed until 10 to 9 then get up rather than jump up early, help get ds ready and take him to school on his own way to college. Instead its left for me to get him ready, he was sad at the weekend as daddy went out with his friends and he said he misses daddy a lot. I took him out to the park and soft play and we went swimming but its still not the same as having daddy around.
Hes changed beyond all recognition, hes going to a sculpture park next week. his old friends were all through work so he hasn't bothered to stay in contact, his new friends are mostly art students. He has no clue what to do after this course, it was just there so he took it. if he was working towards something i could understand but he hasn't a clue what to do next... last week I spent the week doing the school run for both ds and dp - today ive put my foot down and said im not taking d anymore, he can get up earlier and get the bus (its 15 mins and a 10 min walk to college), he acted like it was the other side of the world. I get to then come home and work all day, cleaning, washing, cooking aswell as my own work (self employed) yet he spent his time throwing ribena and coffee at a piece f cardboard and calling it art. Im trying so hard to be supportive and remember hes still not completely better but I hate the new dp.
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AIBU to be hating "the new and improved" DP...
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snotbags · 20/09/2016 11:22
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