To have just spent £135 on a bag?

(51 Posts)
FlyHighLittleBee Mon 19-Sep-16 19:42:08

I'm always buying cheap handbags (primark) that break within a few months, due to lugging around my laptop and books. My old one has just broke, so went to buy a new one for uni when I fell in love with a moschino bag from ASOS - £135blush I couldn't resist. I've never bought an item of clothing/ accessory that costs anywhere near that. I'm not well off by a long stretch of the imagination, but I've got a new job and my wages/ tax credits will pay for my rent, bills and food. The money I get from uni will pay for savings, stuff for DD, days out, Christmas, unexpected outgoings etc. DDs dad pays her nursery fees.

I deserve a treat, I think. I've broken up with her (EA) dad in the past few months, which has been really shit - but took a crazy amount of strength to first do it, and then stick to it. I got one of the top 50 grades out of 20000 students in my first year at uni, so will receive an extra £1000 scholarship this year. I've just managed to become a samaritans volunteers after a gruelling selection process, which will stand me in good stead for my dream career alongside my job in a psychiatric hospital. I don't get many congratulations from family and friends, but I feel really bloody proud of myself at present, especially since I was made homeless at age 16 (6 years ago), and developed severe mental health/ substance abuse issues. It took a good few years to get better.

I don't go out as her dad won't have her at the weekends, so my social life is non existent (but a great way to save money - silver linings ). I cook from scratch to save money (mostly) and try to walk everywhere to save money on public transport.

My DD wants for nothing. Me and her dad spent £200 each last month to buy her a new wardrobe for the colder weather in the next size up, and lots of new toys as she was really bored of her baby ones (she's 16mo now). So why do I feel so bloody guilty?! I keep thinking of other, more important things I could spend the money on, or that I should really save it. Plus I get a little bit of tax credits every month, which I know a lot of people despise on here. Should I really be spending so much on a bag when some people receive no benefits and are struggling to do their shopping every week?

Argh. Should I just cancel my order? I'm feeling so anxious and guilty about it that I don't think it's worth it.

SingingSands Mon 19-Sep-16 19:45:01

This bag is your reward, for all the things you've listed above. Use it, and feel proud of yourself every time you do.
Bloody well done OP, you sound like a hard worker and a sensible woman. Now enjoy the bag!

kilmuir Mon 19-Sep-16 19:46:48

You don't need to justify it, enjoy. And I have never had guts to spend more than £30 on a bag

Pixilicious Mon 19-Sep-16 19:47:20

Nope

PurpleDaisies Mon 19-Sep-16 19:47:22

You're only unreasonably in not posting a picture!

Elliemayclampett Mon 19-Sep-16 19:47:46

Keep the bag. You deserve it.

JellyBelli Mon 19-Sep-16 19:48:06

Stop justifying it! You're a grown adult, its your money.

SabineUndine Mon 19-Sep-16 19:48:16

No, I've spent more. A good bag lasts me about five years, so it's an investment.

Errrr... Link!

(YANBU but I want to see it!)

TopangaD Mon 19-Sep-16 19:49:43

Stop feeling guilty or trying to justify it.. enjoy when it arrives x

SaggyNaggy Mon 19-Sep-16 19:50:05

Everyone deserves treats, what is life without them?
My general rule of thumb is as long as you don't have to sacrifice necessity to afford unnecessary then non justification needed.

Plus.... Its a bag, its £135, it will hopefully last far longer than a £30 one so in the long run you've saved money. grin

TheGoodEnoughWife Mon 19-Sep-16 19:50:26

You will get lots of use from the bag so stop justifying it! The only need thing you should have done is put up a link or a pic ;-)

Blondieblondie Mon 19-Sep-16 19:51:44

Enjoy the bag, OP. You deserve it, and hopefully it's a little bit of incentive, showing you the nice things you can treat yourself too once you've finished studying and achieved your dream job. Well done for getting this far. Keep it up!

Onenerfwarfrombreakdown Mon 19-Sep-16 19:51:48

I bet in "pence per use" it will work out a lot more economical in the long run as it will last much, much longer than constantly replacing cheap bags!

"Buy cheap, buy thrice" is a saying for a reason (well, it is where I come from).

You deserve it. Use it every day with joy. You do not need to justify this to us, or you. Be proud of all you have achieved. flowers

Mooey89 Mon 19-Sep-16 19:52:59

YANBU. But you need to show us.

FelixFelix Mon 19-Sep-16 19:53:00

Really want to see the bag!

gunsandbanjos Mon 19-Sep-16 19:53:10

You don't need to justify it if you can afford it.

I'm of the mindset that I'd rather by one decent thing that lasted ages and looked great than a cheaper version that fell to bits and looked rubbish.

I do like a handbag, I will confess to a modest Mulberry collection.

needsahalo Mon 19-Sep-16 19:55:39

You deserve it. A treat one in a while does you good. On a handbag note, I always bought cheap ones till one day I fell for a Radley bag. I still have it, 5 years later and it is in good condition. It is always choc-full. I now but one decent bag a year and am building a small collection. I save for it by rounding up to the nearest £5 in the supermarket and putting it on a gift card. I then use that to pay for shopping when I buy a new bag!

FlyHighLittleBee Mon 19-Sep-16 19:56:40

Oh blush I thought you would all slaughter me. Sat here for 10 minutes thinking about posting it as I wasn't sure if I could take the firm YABU response after a nightmare day with my little DD who has suddenly turned into the most adorable whiny whingy little devil, who hates food, sleep and pretty much anything that doesn't pose a risk to her confused

But she's gone off to her dads so I'm enjoying a glass bottle of prosecco, reading your comments and now looking forward to my new bag. I still feel guilty. But you guys are right. What's life without a treat every now and then!?

And sorry if I sound pathetic trying to justify it to myself. I still struggle with anxiety and sometimes worry a disproportionate amount. But you've all made me feel a ton better already grin and thanks for the lovely comments. You don't know what they mean flowers

Picture included. I hate the scarf thingy by the way. But it's detachable, thank god. I'll give it to DD to play with smile I don't know why I love it so much, but I do. It's perfect. Big enough for my mountain of stuff. And it's my favourite colour grin

FlyHighLittleBee Mon 19-Sep-16 19:56:51

Oh blush I thought you would all slaughter me. Sat here for 10 minutes thinking about posting it as I wasn't sure if I could take the firm YABU response after a nightmare day with my little DD who has suddenly turned into the most adorable whiny whingy little devil, who hates food, sleep and pretty much anything that doesn't pose a risk to her confused

But she's gone off to her dads so I'm enjoying a glass bottle of prosecco, reading your comments and now looking forward to my new bag. I still feel guilty. But you guys are right. What's life without a treat every now and then!?

And sorry if I sound pathetic trying to justify it to myself. I still struggle with anxiety and sometimes worry a disproportionate amount. But you've all made me feel a ton better already grin and thanks for the lovely comments. You don't know what they mean flowers

Picture included. I hate the scarf thingy by the way. But it's detachable, thank god. I'll give it to DD to play with smile I don't know why I love it so much, but I do. It's perfect. Big enough for my mountain of stuff. And it's my favourite colour grin

MissLadyM Mon 19-Sep-16 19:57:50

Shit! I've just looked and fallen in love with one for £115!

PurpleDaisies Mon 19-Sep-16 19:58:41

That's a lovely bag. I love the colour.

MissLadyM Mon 19-Sep-16 19:59:52

ps - enjoy your bag and prosecco - you deserve them!!! and you could maybe sell the scarf on Ebay? x

TheLastHeatwave Mon 19-Sep-16 19:59:55

Congratulations!! So many great things, but especially for leaving your EA partner. That takes real courage, especially so young & with a baby/toddler. You're doing exceptionally well for anyone top 50/2000 but especially for someone with your background💐

I'm sorry you don't have people telling you this in person.

£135 on a sensible bag is fine. I don't spend much on bags as I usually buy them at TK MAX. or when I see one I like at a French market or something. They're usually about £35 because I can't be done with fussing over them. But if I saw the perfect bag for £135 I'd buy it. Some people on here spend thousands on designer bags - I seriously don't get that, but each to their own 😁

It's a very practical treat that you definitely deserve. It's not like you're starving DD to pay for it, so just enjoy it! 😊

Stevefromstevenage Mon 19-Sep-16 20:01:19

I love it. That is all expect congratulations for being you, you sound awesome.

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