I lived with a violent and abusive man for 14 years. Over the years he was both physically and mentally abusive, he broke my nose, knocked me out on several occasions, wound a studded belt around his hand and punched me repeatedly in the face, strangled me, smashed the windscreen of my car with me and my daughter in it showering us with glass, punched me almost every day and was mentally abusive too.
I tried to leave on many occasions, he hunted me down, blackmailed me and even climbed through a friends upstairs window to get at me. He would frequently lock me in the house or disable my car to stop me escaping. In short he made my life a living hell as he blackmailed me if I escaped he would hurt people close to me, abduct my daughter and kill me.
Eventually one day he barricaded me in the house and told me he was going to kill me. He repeatedly hit me across the head with a piece of wood and I felt myself starting to lose consciousness. My daughter who had been out heard my screams and managed to get her hand through the cat flap and unlock the back door. I managed to flee to a neighbours house who called the police. He was arrested and sent to a bail hostel whilst waiting trial, but eventually he was only charged with ABH. He was convicted and locked up.
By the time he was out I had met another man who would never dream of laying a finger on me. This all happened several years ago. Unfortunately I still see my ex as he is my daughters dad.
He has now met another woman and is talking about moving in with her. She has young children and grandchildren around and has no idea what she is getting into. I really feel she deserves to know but this has now led to a massive fall out with my daughter who has now decided to disown me and my new partner and stop us from seeing our grandchildren.
My heart is shattered into a thousand pieces. I haven’t even told this new woman anything but my daughter is being so evil towards me for even considering doing it. I feel torn between wanting to do the right thing in my mind, and keeping my nose out and risking the consequences.
AIBU to think she deserves to know what this man is capable of?
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sugarskullz · 19/09/2016 17:18
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