Would you give up your surname of you got married?

[windowt]

I'm so undecided

[Soubriquet]

I did.

But it's your choice.

[Careforadrink]

Never. Would have been a deal breaker for me.

[DancingDinosaur]

No.

[LolaStarr]

I did. I hated my original surname though.

[PNGirl]

I did.

[JellyBellyKelly]

I did, after thinking through the arguments for and against.

[Tumtitum]

I did, I wanted our children to have the same name. I know plenty who haven't though.

[WhateverWillBe]

I changed my name, yes. Not very popular on mn though

[CMOTDibbler]

Nope, and I didn't. 19 years of marriage, one son (who has both names) and its never been a problem

[crje]

I didn't until kids stared school.
Just seemed easier to have the same name as them then.

[windowt]

Would you keep yours and he keep his and then double barrel future children, or would you double barrel yours and DH's too?

[JinkxMonsoon]

I kept my name. Purely because it made me feel incredibly sad when I thought about giving it up.

[Mirandawest]

Changed my surname the first time I got married.

This time I double barrelled my surname with DHs.

[gunting]

Nope. My son has my surname as a middle name and my partners as his surname.

[DramaAlpaca]

I did. I preferred his name to mine and I wanted both of us and our children to have the same name.

[Cocklodger]

No.
He took my name. same as my mother never took a mans name and I have her name, My children will have my name. I will keep my name and DH knew the only way we'd share a name was if he took mine, so he did.
I take no issue with others doing whatever they like (feminism is about choice not shitting on others for making a different one) but for me, it links in deeply with my feminist beliefs and identity and I will not allow that to ever change.

[Bearbehind]

What's the big deal?

Your surname is only the name you were given when you were born.

Why be so previous about it?

Having the same name as my children would be a bigger deal for me.

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

I did. Not because I thought I should. Just because I had a really boring surname and now I have a really interesting one.

If he'd been Mr Buttocks I wouldn't have done.

[DoodleCat]

Nope. My name is me. But it's a personal choice. I have no regrets not changing. I don't care if people get confused, I don't mind I if people call me husband's surname but will correct when appropriate.

[KatieScarlett]

I did.
My dad was a cunt though.

[AppleJac]

I did but i regret it.

I don't particularly like my married surname. I wish i has double barrelled it with my maiden name. Dd has our married surname and i would of kept it as that for children as my name was still in with theirs.

I dont know anyone that has kept their maiden name upon marriage

[BluishSky]

Yes I did. No problem at all. I like being a 'unit' that a shared name gives.

[stitchglitched]

No I'm keeping mine when we get around to marrying. The kids have my name too.

[Mummaaaaaah]

Wasn't going to but then was sad at not having same name is DS. I weirdly still chastise myself out loud in maiden name.