Would you give up your surname of you got married?

(923 Posts)
windowt Sun 18-Sep-16 20:27:39

I'm so undecided sad

Soubriquet Sun 18-Sep-16 20:28:55

I did.

But it's your choice.

Careforadrink Sun 18-Sep-16 20:29:09

Never. Would have been a deal breaker for me.

DancingDinosaur Sun 18-Sep-16 20:29:29

No.

LolaStarr Sun 18-Sep-16 20:29:57

I did. I hated my original surname though.

PNGirl Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:00

I did.

JellyBellyKelly Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:01

I did, after thinking through the arguments for and against.

Tumtitum Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:03

I did, I wanted our children to have the same name. I know plenty who haven't though.

WhateverWillBe Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:06

I changed my name, yes. Not very popular on mn though grin

CMOTDibbler Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:17

Nope, and I didn't. 19 years of marriage, one son (who has both names) and its never been a problem

crje Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:54

I didn't until kids stared school.
Just seemed easier to have the same name as them then.

windowt Sun 18-Sep-16 20:30:54

Would you keep yours and he keep his and then double barrel future children, or would you double barrel yours and DH's too?

Arfarfanarf Sun 18-Sep-16 20:31:03

I did.
It is and should be personal choice.
If it isnt what you 100% want - dont do it.
You can change it any point if you change your mind.

Are you simply undecided or do you have external pressure?

JinkxMonsoon Sun 18-Sep-16 20:31:23

I kept my name. Purely because it made me feel incredibly sad when I thought about giving it up.

Mirandawest Sun 18-Sep-16 20:31:29

Changed my surname the first time I got married.

This time I double barrelled my surname with DHs.

gunting Sun 18-Sep-16 20:31:34

Nope. My son has my surname as a middle name and my partners as his surname.

DramaAlpaca Sun 18-Sep-16 20:31:44

I did. I preferred his name to mine and I wanted both of us and our children to have the same name.

Cocklodger Sun 18-Sep-16 20:32:08

No.
He took my name. same as my mother never took a mans name and I have her name, My children will have my name. I will keep my name and DH knew the only way we'd share a name was if he took mine, so he did.
I take no issue with others doing whatever they like (feminism is about choice not shitting on others for making a different one) but for me, it links in deeply with my feminist beliefs and identity and I will not allow that to ever change.

Bearbehind Sun 18-Sep-16 20:32:09

What's the big deal?

Your surname is only the name you were given when you were born.

Why be so previous about it?

Having the same name as my children would be a bigger deal for me.

EndoplasmicReticulum Sun 18-Sep-16 20:32:40

I did. Not because I thought I should. Just because I had a really boring surname and now I have a really interesting one.

If he'd been Mr Buttocks I wouldn't have done.

DoodleCat Sun 18-Sep-16 20:33:03

Nope. My name is me. But it's a personal choice. I have no regrets not changing. I don't care if people get confused, I don't mind I if people call me husband's surname but will correct when appropriate.

I did.
My dad was a cunt though.

AppleJac Sun 18-Sep-16 20:33:12

I did but i regret it.

I don't particularly like my married surname. I wish i has double barrelled it with my maiden name. Dd has our married surname and i would of kept it as that for children as my name was still in with theirs.

I dont know anyone that has kept their maiden name upon marriage

BluishSky Sun 18-Sep-16 20:33:19

Yes I did. No problem at all. I like being a 'unit' that a shared name gives.

stitchglitched Sun 18-Sep-16 20:33:21

No I'm keeping mine when we get around to marrying. The kids have my name too.

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