To feel a bit left out

(8 Posts)
Dutch212 Sun 18-Sep-16 17:10:03

Called my parents yesterday to ask to see them this weekend. Was told my dad is ill with cough and cold so will see them another time. Invited my mum over to give her a break from looking after dad and she gratefully said she would come today.

Had a call this morning to say my brother has asked to see them today so she won't be over as he is coming for Sunday lunch. Dad is still ill but apparently feels up to seeing him. No invite to me, just a mention of seeing me another time.

I didn't say I was bothered as don't want to upset them but aibu to feel everything is dropped for my brother (including me!)

ayeokthen Sun 18-Sep-16 17:17:38

I get this all the time. My brother is a self centred arsehole, who treats people like shit, has literally screwed our parents out of hundreds of thousands, treated my mum like absolute shit when she was going through chemo/radio, is rude and nasty to/about my kids and is generally just a prick. But because he strops when things don't go his way and threatens going NC everybody is expected to drop everything to suit him. I've got to the stage now where I ignore it because I can't be arsed with the hassle and just repeat the "not my circus, not my monkeys" mantra. I don't have any contact with him anymore except big family gatherings and my kids couldn't pick him out of a line up. Why my Mum in particular panders to his shite I will never know.

Solongtoshort Sun 18-Sep-16 17:53:26

Out of interest are your brothers older than you?

Sorry this happens to you both.

ayeokthen Sun 18-Sep-16 17:56:42

Solongtoshort mine is younger. To be honest I've queried if he's a sociopath such is his utter lack of concern or empathy for others. He's EA to his lovely girlfriend, has driven countless others away, even his absolute toad of a gold digging wife could only tolerate 2 years of his shit. But when he charged my mother fuel money to take her to chemo in a brand new car she'd bloody paid for outright and he had thousands in the bank it put the tin lid on it for me.

CodyKing Sun 18-Sep-16 18:06:40

OP - why don't you a sky your mom?

Mom I thought it was a bit rude if you to not invite me to lunch as well? Was there a reason for that?

See what she says?

Maybe she thinks you don't mind because you never say anything?

Time to pipe up

WashBasketsAreUs Sun 18-Sep-16 19:50:09

Golden boy, younger brother/youngest child/only boy? Yep, been there, done that.
Wonder how they've treated you all in their will? Yep, got the t-shirt for that one as well!
If they're anything like my parents, you won't get a straight answer. I tried for years to find out why my sister and I were treated differently, never have got an answer.
Do I sound bitter? Bloody right I do.

MiddleClassProblem Sun 18-Sep-16 19:57:55

My golden boy brother is older. It's irritating to be the one that grows up first despite being younger and having to teach him how to use the washing machine when you've been doing it for years in the same household but little did I know it would get worse.

CurlyMango Sun 18-Sep-16 20:04:30

There always seem to be the god (needy) siblings. Drives me potty.

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