I'm trying to not be that precious parent, and trying to allow my child to find her way through friendships but I'm finding our current situation tricky.
I'm a single parent to a lone child aged 8 (let's call her A) with mild developmental delay, so she doesn't read social signals very well. We've lived in our current house for a few years and there weren't any neighbour kids for her to play with, until a new neighbour moved in. She was also single parent with one child nearly 2years younger (lets called them B). They hit it off, and became like siblings.
All fine, all lovely, knocking on for each other and playing at every opportunity, for the last 3years.
Now, a new neighbour has moved in next door. Again, a single parent with two children - one similar age to our two (C), and one much younger (D).
They are lovely, we all get on, great friends, couldnt have asked for better neighbours/friends.
Now the difficulty...
Child C is very confident and dominant for their age, and has formed a close friendship with B. B is the same with C. They call round on each other all the time and are always at each others houses.
My child still plays with them both if they are about, but has to ask and push to play with them.They now only really play with her if the other isn't available. Its like she's become the backup. She's feeling left out a bit but the hardest part is that she misses her close friendship with B.
I've spoken to B's parent briefly about it, so as not to make too big a deal.
But I can't help for feel bad for my child whenever I see B or C heading straight for the others house to play, completely bypassing my child.
Do I need to just get over it? Should I talk to friend again? Do I just explain to my child that friendships change.....
Am I being unreasonable to be a bit narked that the parents don't seem to notice how exclusive their kids friendship has become?
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bigglesgoggles · 17/09/2016 10:19
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