Police told me to keep an eye on the ex's FB account, to get an idea of his movements, not long before he was found guilty of harassing me. We have two teenagers together who live with me and their stepdad. We struggle by on minimum wage. Ex has never paid a penny for the kids. He doesn't send them xmas or bday gifts.
And there are court orders in place from Family Courts saying he can have no direct contact - but he can mail them 6 times a year.
Recently Child 1 turned 16 and so I went to check the 'father''s FB in case he was threatening to turn up on our doorstep, now I assume the court order no longer applies to Son 1.
CSA (whatever they're called now) have had various tales as to why he owes me £0. One story being he was unemployed. Yet I saw other unemployed men at least paid £5 a week or something. He was told not to pay even that. Later, they claimed he was not in the system - neither paying taxes or claiming benefits. At this point he lived where he had always lived and was easily traceable in 3 seconds online.
I know he inherited a lot of money and before that was pretending he was 'ill' to get the old invalidity benefit.
He has a London flat - mortgage will be paid off by now. And when his mum died he will have got his share of a vast London house. So he has money.
Imagine how thrilled for him I was to see he is renting a villa in some rural part of Italy. Has been there months. Is living the life of Riley.
And yet, according to the powers that be - he does not exist, is not in the system and therefore never has paid a penny for the boys in 16 years.
So what can we do, as parents (men or women in this situation) to recover money retrospectively? If the government agency set up to do this won't bother to help us - anyone know of a law we could use, to start getting women (and men) in this situation a back payment?
Anyone know of a way to get some redress for my sons? Or anyway a whole load of us could somehow find a way to get justice for our kids? Working on the assumption the government has failed to help us do this.
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JoffreyBaratheon · 15/09/2016 15:23
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