To think MIL (or DH) should have was my pot!

(35 Posts)
mangocoveredlamb Thu 15-Sep-16 15:05:56

I've been in hospital since Friday (am now fine) and am 33 weeks pregnant.
At the weekend mil came over to cook a casserole in my big Le crueset casserole dish for a lunch party she was having on Sunday. I knew this was happening and it was not a problem (although I don't know why she couldn't have cooked it at her house borrowing the dish)
I've come home from the hospital to find it sitting in my kitchen unwashed and mouldy.
I expect DH told her not to worry when she dropped it back, if she offered to wash it, but AIBU to think she should have washed it anyway??

mangocoveredlamb Thu 15-Sep-16 15:07:11

In his defence DH has been run ragged coming back and forward to the hospital and looking after our two year old so probably didn't have time to wash it.

Chocoholicmonster Thu 15-Sep-16 15:09:41

So she brought it back unwashed? YNBU. Surely if you borrow something, use it, dirty it, its common courtesy to return it clean? I'd be annoyed at my MIL.

bastardneighbour Thu 15-Sep-16 15:10:36

Maybe she gave him the leftovers to eat? In that case, he should have washed the pilot!

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Thu 15-Sep-16 15:10:44

What sort of a person doesn't wash a dish?! YANBU.

I assume all the other utensils she used for her casserole have been cleaned? Lazy buggers.

nilbyname Thu 15-Sep-16 15:10:54

She dropped it back dirty? Does she hate you?

~~~~Picks jaw up off the floor.... Backs out of thread ~~~~

loona13 Thu 15-Sep-16 15:12:05

Either she should have, or your DH, since he said not to. Mouldy food 😨

HunterHearstHelmsley Thu 15-Sep-16 15:12:31

I bet she gave him leftovers. No one would bring an empty dirty dish!

phillipp Thu 15-Sep-16 15:13:50

It depends. Did she cook at yours, take it to the place and then bring it straight back?

We make a curry for the Christmas party at our kids hobby. Take it in a slow cooker, serve it and they have to bring it home dirty, as there isn't anywhere with a sink big enough to wash at the club house.

Or was there definitely opportunity to wash it before she brought it back?

If then you dh has said don't worry about it, then that's in your dh. Not matter how busy he is, he offered.

BorpBorpBorp Thu 15-Sep-16 15:15:16

If she had to cook the dish at your house, maybe she couldn't wash it up at her house either? Is she having her kitchen done or something?

mangocoveredlamb Thu 15-Sep-16 15:16:13

I haven't asked DH as he's in a meeting, but I was quite flabbergasted!
You are probably right she probably did bring it back with the left overs in.

JustSpeakSense Thu 15-Sep-16 15:16:13

She must have cooked at yours, decanted it into another container and left DH to wash it up.

Or

She brought it back with leftovers for DH to eat

Or

She is a cow

KathArtic Thu 15-Sep-16 15:16:26

Hoping Bastards suggestion is right..

I always, always always wash everything. If the DC's friends leave socks or a jumper etc I would wash and return it too.

JudyCoolibar Thu 15-Sep-16 15:37:28

If DH told her not to bother, then it is 100% down to him. It's hardly unreasonable for her to take him at his word.

Topseyt Thu 15-Sep-16 15:48:18

It wouldn't occur to me to borrow something of someone else's and not wash it up before returning it.

Did DH possibly volunteer to wash it up for her? If he did then he should have made sure he did it. Looking after a two year old is no excuse. The rest of us managed to wash the odd item (or more) whilst minding a small child.

RepentAtLeisure Thu 15-Sep-16 15:49:10

Hmm... If you were in your DH's position, you know you would have washed it. I don't know why men always have to get a pass because they were being primary carer at the time. It takes 20 seconds to put hot soapy water in a pot and let it soak while you do something else.

DixieNormas Thu 15-Sep-16 15:52:58

Your dh should have washed it, of course he's had time it takes no time at all to wash a dish

oldlaundbooth Thu 15-Sep-16 15:59:11

No excuses from anyone, the bloody dish should have been washed.

Cuppaand2biscuits Thu 15-Sep-16 16:03:03

My friend took food to a BBQ and the following day the host returned the dishes bagged up and unwashed!

Daisygarden Thu 15-Sep-16 16:17:08

Your MIL should have washed it, even if DH offered or he ate the leftovers - leftovers could/should have been plated separately - and she should have washed the dish and put it back.

emilywemily Thu 15-Sep-16 16:21:33

Definitely not place marking wink

Daisiespurple Thu 15-Sep-16 16:23:43

In his defence DH has been run ragged coming back and forward to the hospital and looking after our two year old so probably didn't have time to wash it

Yes that makes it impossible to wash a dish hmm

PinkissimoAndPearls Thu 15-Sep-16 16:25:11

I really hope you've not washed that pot.

I'm sure your DH could have found the four or five minutes time to wash it up.

Namechanger2015 Thu 15-Sep-16 16:27:48

If she cooked at your house she probably left it to soak once she was done.
Your DH should have done it. I don't think your MIL is at fault here, but your DH is. Even between hospital trips and your 2yo he could have washed up once toddler was in bed. Leaving it to get mouldy is disgusting.

holycrapweasel Thu 15-Sep-16 16:33:44

My MIL did this. She borrowed 2 dishes for her Sunday roast. Brought them back the next day and said ' I couldn't get them clean so I brought them dirty'. I literally had no words.

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