WIBU to never go on family holiday again?

[MamaDuckling]

Loooong story but I'll try to keep it brief.

My family and I (10 in total, all adults except our two young DC) have for a long time done an annual villa holiday. This year I suggested that DH, DC and I would get a separate villa close to theirs as our DS is a very noisy early riser, and DD doesn't sleep through yet. My family LOVE to lie in and I foresaw problems with the kids spoiling everyone's rest. This suggestion was quickly dismissed, they all insisted they wanted us all to be together and of course understood that two young kids come with some noise.....

Fast forward and we are 4 days in, we have today been relegated to the crappy room on the ground floor (all of us, despite there being a more suitable separate room for 2yr old DS upstairs), because the noise is too much. We have done everything we can to keep him quiet but he's up at 6am and my family don't typically want to wake up until at least 10am (lazy arses IMO but I respect that we are all different).

It all came to a head this morning and I fell out with DB over it (himself expecting his first DC, ha!). He suggested we all decant into this one room. I have DD in travel cot next to me, DS on a mattress at the end of the bed, and snoring DH by my side. I am simply fucked off beyond belief.

WIBU to never do a stupid family holiday ever again based on our experience this time? I now just feel like we are a nuisance to everyone and wish we hadn't come at all.

[papayasareyum]

can you find a nearby hotel and book yourselves in? Sounds hideous, you have my sympathy!

[CatThiefKeith]

Ya totally nbu.

I will never holiday with family again. Advance search will give you many reason why!

[IceMaiden73]

Buy them all some earplugs

Have you all paid for this equally? If so then I would just tell them all tough and use the rooms you have paid for

[LaurieFairyCake]

If you've not had to pay go to another Villa - you've got almost another week of this crap?

[Babyroobs]

YANBU. They should have let you get a seperate villa or maybe you should have insisted you get a seperate villa. Either way they shouldn't have insisted you all be together and then complain.

[monkeywithacowface]

If you've paid your share tell them to sod off. If it was a freebie I'd find a hotel instead

[MamaDuckling]

Yes all paid equally. I offered to pay extra for the kid room (with twin beds that is presently unoccupied) but I was told not to. They are usually lively but so ridiculously precious about holiday lie-ins. I'm so annoyed. Mostly at myself for not sticking to my gums and booking a separate place....

DB had the gall to suggest I should 'teach DS to stay quiet until 9am'. I scoffed at this and DB mocked me and called me a diva.

Just hideous. Huge tension. Massive 'us and them' atmosphere.

[LaurieFairyCake]

You really must repeat what your brother said loudly back to him and tell him you're going to be reminding him off it when his kid is 5.

What. A. Twat

[MamaDuckling]

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[44PumpLane]

YABU to have listened to the bigger and move.

Remind the family this is why you so strongly wanted to get your own villa, let them know that in future perhaps they can trust your instinct as a parent, but as they didn't this is the consequence they will have to live with- they can wear earplugs whereas this is your life !!

[44PumpLane]

*to the bugger!

[MamaDuckling]

I'd 100% get a hotel locally but it would cause hell on earth. I was told I overreacted this morning when I told them al to get a grip and the started crying (sleep deprived and a touch of PND).

DH being massive sulky pants about it all and just wants to go home.

[Pilgit]

Tough. Use the rooms you paid for. However I can understand their point to of view a bit. On holiday last year with a friend and her DS in a static caravan. He was up.every day at 6.00 did she put the TV. On and try keep.him.quiet? No she was letting him run up and down the corridor screaming and then rough housing with him. I am not a late riser - normally up at the weekends by 8 but this really boiled my piss as it felt like she did nothing to curtail it.

Can you sit him down in front of the TV for a bit? Play games on a tablet?

However if it's normal noise of being up rather than being actually loud then theye do need to jog on.

[BabyGanoush]

You take one room (the twin beds) with one child

DH takes the other room with the other child.

That is the best set-up, IMO, abd that way you are better off than now.

When the kid you are with wakes up, pretend to be asleep until he/she gets too noisy, then plug kid into i-pad with a drink (milk/juice), whilst you lie in the other bed with a cup of tea and MN.

At 8/9 or so, get up and go out with the family to pool/walk/breakfast caf.

That's how we always survived these type hols!

Now we have teens, can't get them out of bed!

[M00nUnit]

Poor you! It's completely unreasonable to expect little kids to be quiet when they wake up in the morning. Your DB etc. shouldn't have insisted on sharing a holiday home with you if they expected silence until 10am. Selfish people.

[MamaDuckling]

Yes to telly! Peppa Pig on constantly but apparently that's 'the noise'. DS tantrums quite a lot and of course we try to curtail it but......... Need I say more? We've tried taking them outside to the pool but it's bloody freezing until the sun is on the villa. Poor DD was shaking!

[MerylPeril]

Has no one helpfully suggested that you keep DC up really late and then they will sleep in? Because it doesn't work
Which was my experience of going away with in laws ....

Sleep where you want and everytime they complain about noise say 'this is why we wanted our own villa'
And get your own next time as there will be a noisy baby and hopefully yours will be sleeping better by then

[DartmoorDoughnut]

Oh god I'm looking forward to your 'D'B benign a parent!!

And yes tell them all you warned them and then move and get yourselves comfortable in proper rooms, buy them ear plugs and NEVER do it again!

[DartmoorDoughnut]

Benign is obvs meant to be being!

[DartmoorDoughnut]

Oh and by move I just mean into proper bedrooms in your current villa not spend more money on moving into a hotel.

[BeenThereDoneThatForgotten]

Sorry, but I would use the rooms that you paid for and point out that you did warn them, sorry. No way would I be held hostage like this.

[DeadGood]

I feel your pain OP, totally and completely! Flashing back to a frantic midnight search for flights back to the UK during a similar experience...

[MaudlinNamechange]

would a hotel be any better if you are all crammed into one room there?

Definitely take the other rooms, or go home. It might be better to go home if there is a terrible atmosphere. there is no point in being physically uncomfortable AND disapproved of - you might as well take the rooms and at least get some peace!

I agree with the poster who said you and your DH should take a child each, because I can't bear snoring men - I'd rather share with a dc than a snoring man any day of the week, but especially on holiday

[cdtaylornats]

I would go to the nearest suitable town and buy cheap plastic trumpets and drums.

My mother used to do this she ran the village shop and if parents pissed her off she would get a load of cheap noisy toys and give them out as presents. Its really amusing to see a mother say "Thanks" when her 3 year old has just been given a drum.

[Hassled]

God yes I remember a helpful childless family member suggesting I keep the kids up later because that would definitely work and we'd all get a lovely lie in.
Reclaim those rooms or go home. Or just think sod them and let the kids make whatever noise is normal. This sounds like hell.