To be very happy being single

(31 Posts)
iluvshoes Mon 12-Sep-16 19:00:40

Come on ladies give me your feedback on this one. If another colleague at work tells me to try internet dating I think I'm going to scream. Is it wrong to be very happy on your own and not really have any interest in meeting a man ? My son is my main priority and I cannot see that changing if ever.

BewtySkoolDropowt Mon 12-Sep-16 19:03:34

YANBU. Not one bit.

I have a client who I see once a month. EVERY TIME I see him he asks 'found a man yet?'

It would probably be easier to find one if I was actually looking...

There's something to be said for being single. Look at all the unhappy people in relationships on here if you ever start to doubt yourself! (Granted there are many happy ones too - but we hear more about the unhappy ones..)

Ninasimoneinthemorning Mon 12-Sep-16 19:05:48

No In fact it's a fucking great place to be in. Some folk just can't get to grips with actually being happy being single - it's like you are only happy when you are part of somebody else.

When I finally achieved this 'state of mind' I met Dh shortly after grin the only time I wasn't looking for a bloke or even thinking he could possibly be in the running as a potential BF or partner.

Enjoy it op wine

Justaboy Mon 12-Sep-16 19:07:16

BewtySkoolDropowt Course you'll hear about the bad ones, bad news sells good news doesn't!.

Simple human nature.

What do you remember more?

The times your car took you to where you wanted to go for years with no trouble, or the one time it let you down;?

SabineUndine Mon 12-Sep-16 19:08:17

YANBU. I love the freedom that singlehood gives me and in fact find it quite tough if I have someone to stay.

BewtySkoolDropowt Mon 12-Sep-16 19:08:32

Justaboy - thanks for spelling out my point for people that aren't smart enough to catch on!

EmpressKnowsWhereHerTowelIs Mon 12-Sep-16 19:21:33

Being single is fucking brilliant.

Having said that... it probably helps that I have a lot of good friends, love my job and I'm part of a big, close family.

deadpool99 Mon 12-Sep-16 19:22:29

Yanbu - my single years were the best years of my life!! I thoroughly enjoyed them and was much happier. Don't listen to them

BitchQueen90 Mon 12-Sep-16 19:26:37

YANBU. Single for 2 and a half years over here. I'm just starting a new career, I like managing my home and my finances exactly the way I want, I like cooking whatever meals I want, I like having whatever I want on the TV. I like having a superking bed all to myself. I like it being just me and DS.

I'm not opposed to relationships, I'm just not looking for one and I'm not willing to settle for anyone who comes my way. The next man in my life will have to be someone pretty special, and if I don't meet them then I'm fine with that. You're not alone OP, here's to the happy singles club wine

debbs77 Mon 12-Sep-16 19:26:42

I love it!

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky Mon 12-Sep-16 19:27:10

YANBU

I've been single for nearly two years and I've never been happier.

iluvshoes Mon 12-Sep-16 19:30:33

Thanks for the feedback on this . I'm sure where I work they think I'm some sad old bird who needs to get herself a man. Hmmm can't see that happening anytime soon. I'm thinking I'd actually rather get a dog! Ha ha ha

maisiejones Mon 12-Sep-16 19:30:44

I love being single. Nothing could tempt me to share my house with a man again. I look at the relationships board here and offer up a silent prayer of thanks.

jay55 Mon 12-Sep-16 19:32:17

I love being single, not having to run anything by anyone, no one faffing.

Babynamechange Mon 12-Sep-16 19:33:08

YANBU! I love it.... x

Childrenofthestones Mon 12-Sep-16 19:34:03

Yanbu.
I loved being single, I had couple of friends but loved spending time alone.
The worst part was putting up with all the gay comments. I mean I must be gay mustnt I if I don't spend half my life running around after women.
I equally love being married with kids now but there should certainly be no shame to being a singleton.😄
Full control of the remote? What's not to love?

Somanyvipers Mon 12-Sep-16 19:40:14

YANBU I bloody love being single, got years in, and wouldn't change it for the world. People find it odd, I am pretty quick to tell them to fuck off.

FlyHighLittleBee Mon 12-Sep-16 19:45:27

I've only been single a month or so, but I'm beginning to realise that it's a much bette situation to be in (than a shitty abusive relationship anyway). Really like this thread grin

Lucyccfc Mon 12-Sep-16 19:47:19

I have been single for 8 years and love it.

Just DS and myself. What's not to love:

Great job
Lots of friends
Lovely home
Complete control of my finances
Complete control of all decision making.
No one to mess my house up
Toilet seat down
No petty arguments
Don't need to worrying about not shaving my legs or bits
Happy with my own company or seeing friends
Not having to worry about where someone else wants to go on holiday - just DS and I decide

When DS is at his Dad's:

Slob around in my PJ's all day and watch crap tele or read a book
Go,out for lunch with the girls
Go to the cinema
Pub crawl with the girls
Shopping and buying clothes without being moaned at for spending money
Spend ages on the internet looking for fab holidays

I get on well with Ex-H, but he was shite with money and had a gambling problem and did end up stealing money from me. It's less stressful without him.

The same as another poster said - I read the relationship board and say a huge, loud, thank goodness I am single.

gunsandbanjos Mon 12-Sep-16 19:53:05

Definitely not unreasonable, I was very happily single for 3 years after leaving my husband. Spent time concentrating on making sure my daughter was ok and getting on in my new career.

My single friends and I discussed it many times, we were all happy and successful in our relevant fields and if we were to date someone they would have to bring something to the equation. We would all rather be single and happy than in a relationship just for the sake of it.

I will say I'm now in a relationship with a man I met online, he's absolutely fantastic, I feel very lucky to have met someone so amazing.

However there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, as long as you're happy fuck everyone who tries to tell you otherwise.

SoleBizzz Mon 12-Sep-16 19:54:02

Yanbu. All men are smiling assassins.

MollyBloomYes Mon 12-Sep-16 19:58:46

Needed this thread! Mostly I enjoy it after having it thrust upon me last year. Will love it even more once my finances are back on track and I can move out of my parents (something that seems infinitely more doable now that my ex and his ridiculous lack of money sense is out of the way).

Could do with a couple more single friends though. Meeting another single parent friend would be the dream, my toddler and baby aren't quite at the fun conversation stage yet if we go out anywhere!

Other than that though, it's pretty awesome. Especially the total power over Netflix

thesnailandthewhale Mon 12-Sep-16 20:09:00

Another happy singleton here grin

Positives:
Bed to myself
Can get into said bed as early as I want with the laptop without someone whinging
No shirts to iron
No MIL smile
Christmas with my family every year
In control of my finances

Negatives:
Hmm ... still looking for one smile

ghostyslovesheep Mon 12-Sep-16 20:16:31

YANBU at all - 6 years and counting

I am really happy with myself and my life - it's lovely

chitofftheshovel Mon 12-Sep-16 20:19:46

I love being single. For all the above reasons plus no compromise!

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