I left my ex and went to a refuge. By some stupidity and a loophole any injunctions etc weren't renewed (I was far away therefore no need for injunction which meant he could take my dc one day and make me go to court to gain the marital home back and therefore my dc) (long story)
Anyway since then he's like a thorn in my side. He will pick and choose whether to see dc or not but if I'm late he hands me the court order with the times highlighted. Never attended a parents evening but demands to be on the school records to monitor my lateness/absences etc. As per my other thread he even demanded to know why he didn't know I was pregnant (left 5 years ago and I'm remarried and he doesn't pay anything above minimum csa so I'm independent of him in every other way - no spouse support etc.)
Anyway I moved schools for the dc - he's never been to their current one in 5 years , has zero involvement in school life like home works, uniforms, exam preparation etc. He even refused to take one dc to their 11+ this weekend so I had to, even though it was "his" weekend.
So I didn't tell him they have changed school but someone he found out (I don't have facebook or anything similar) so now I'm getting the barrage of messages.
Aibu not to tell him? He only will use it to spy on me, not actually for anything positive. When I moved house he was demanding all sorts like did I rent or buy - just invading my privacy. I'm in the process of starting up mediation to get rid of his visitation (a lot of issues surrounding it like letting them play 18+ games, not taking them to their weekend activities and then coming 24+ hours late or dropping them early at my work front door etc - whatever he can do to control me basically)
I'm trying to get rid of the control he has - was it really unreasonable to not tell him?
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ncforthisone1234 · 12/09/2016 14:03
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