To ask what you think about sleepovers?

[Mummyyummy2012]

We have had a few sleepovers for DS 8's mates but I'm never that keen tbh- I value weekends as family time and I also think that they spend their week together in school!

Problem is that DS's mates do it a lot and he's feeling left out - aibu to not want regular (for some of his mates its every weekend) sleepovers? Am I being a bit bah humbug?!

[Wellywife]

They do get close on sleepovers so I'd go for it. Maybe not every weekend though!

[HarryDresdensLeatherDuster]

We have always had the DCs' friends here. Some stay for days! What do you do for your 'family time' that can't include a friend or two?

I love my DCs' close friends, they are like family extensions!

[FeelingSmurfy]

Friday night, take home after school and get rid Saturday lunch time? That way you have rest of Saturday and all day Sunday

[Tissunnyupnorth]

Absolutely agree. Had huge argument with Dd1 (14) yesterday. She had two friends staying over last sat night and had invited two to stay last night. We said no. They are OK as an occasional treat in the school holidays, but we have had to stand firm to stop them becoming part of their routine at the weekends ( we also have DS1 (12) and DD2 (8). I find them intrusive, result in grumpy children the next day and the current trend of having them every weekend completely bonkers.

Like you, when DD1 was younger we started to have them as her friends were and we worried she would miss out. Those feelings were very short lived!

[bibbitybobbityyhat]

Yanbu! I fekking hate sleepovers. Ime it just results in a very short nights sleep for the host parents, and I find that hard to tolerate.

[Mummyyummy2012]

I honestly don't mind the very occasional one but also the last time we had a kid to stay, he poo'd himself in our lounge and I had to clear it up and put the child in the bloody shower. It sent me over the edge tbh- its not how I want to be spending my weekends!

[00100001]

They aren't aren't compulsory you know

[ghostyslovesheep]

had one last night - DD1 and 2 mates (14) and DD2 (12)

normally they would be at their dads with DD3 so I gave up my night off but apart from that it was lovely - no loss of sleep (for me) and they where very polite and tidied up

but yes - they aren't compulsory!

[RummidgeGeneral]

Sleepovers are the devil's work! I hate the grumpiness afterwards.

[hownottofuckup]

He poo'd himself in your lounge? I'm pretty certain I wouldn't be able to cope with that

[arethereanyleftatall]

1. Sleepovers are my kids favourite things
   
2. Sleepovers for them at others houses mean a free night out for me and dh.
   
3. I don't enjoy them at my house but it's worth it for points 1&2.

[GeneralBobbit]

Don't have the poo-er over again

We only did them in half terms. It's hardly a long time to wait 6/7 weeks for one.

I never did any in term time.

[pointythings]

We absolutely don't do them every weekend, special occasions and holidays only. They can really help forge friendship groups though, so don't dismiss them entirely - just budget in terms of school workload and ensure school nights are for sleeping.

We weren't doing them when DDs were around 8 though, ours were about 11 when it really kicked off.