To think this is one of the most challenging parts of having a new baby?

(19 Posts)
Saucisson2016 Fri 09-Sep-16 17:45:26

When you have visitors/ see people and you talk about the baby and they are all like "don't do this… Do that… I always did it like this… I would never do it like that…"

This is my second child I have managed to keep them both alive up until now.

How do you respond?

DubiousCredentials Fri 09-Sep-16 17:46:05

Smile and wave boys, smile and wave.

Heratnumber7 Fri 09-Sep-16 17:49:29

^ that, with a few "thank you, I'll try that"s thrown in.

Smartiepants79 Fri 09-Sep-16 17:52:52

Id probably say 'oh, really?' And then ignore said advice if I wanted to.
I really don't let this kind of thing bother me at all.
Most people say these things for the right reason. They are trying to be helpful and make your life easier as it's what worked for them.
If you're happy as you then just smile and carry on.

MyBreadIsEggy Fri 09-Sep-16 17:53:37

Smile and nod.
I'm 32 weeks pg with dc2, and I've already had the "well I supposed you've learned your lesson from last time and won't make that mistake again"....when discussing my plans to breastfeed again and most likely bed share again hmm I just respond with "it works for us" and leave it at that.

OiWithThePoodlesAlready Fri 09-Sep-16 17:56:20

I have 2 children and somehow I have avoided anyone ever saying anything like that to me. Maybe it's my resting bitch face.

liz70 Fri 09-Sep-16 17:57:08

Have a third child. Nobody offers advice then. grin

Saucisson2016 Fri 09-Sep-16 17:59:44

I have never made any comments like this myself to anybody else. I just wouldn't dream of telling somebody how to suck eggs. Surely people must realise it falls on deaf ears no one takes that kind of advice seriously. Makes me feel like I need to defend my parenting when I clearly I don't

The baby sleeps through feeds well and is happy. Surely nothing needs to change?

Rollonbedtime7pm Fri 09-Sep-16 18:46:45

liz grin so true! Now you mention it, no one has given me a single piece of advice since I had my 3rd!

As most people have 2, I am officially More Experienced than them!

OP YAB slightly U - the relentless night feeding is clearly the hardest part! wink

SaucyJack Fri 09-Sep-16 18:48:56

Depending on who it is you're talking to, I find a pointed "Yeah- and look how yours turned out" tends to shut people up.

QuiteLikely5 Fri 09-Sep-16 18:53:29

I never understand why people moan about others making light conversation about babies!

Fgs!!! They don't give a s?!t what you do they are just making chit chat!

MrsDeVere Fri 09-Sep-16 18:58:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Saucisson2016 Fri 09-Sep-16 19:15:28

I just find comments like "make sure you wrap him up if you take him out" completely unnecessary. As if I would take him out wearing a nappy with a load of ice cubes chucked in or something. What a stupid thing to say!

kiki22 Fri 09-Sep-16 19:18:00

I always listen because it might be useful if I think they are flat out wrong like leaving a newborn to scream for an hour i would say that I dont agree if its just a different way of doing the same thing then I might chat about the ins and outs or tell them how I do it.

raviolidreaming Fri 09-Sep-16 20:36:20

May I suggest this babygro?

I just listen and then discard any info I don't want to use. Sometimes it can be helpful.

My most challenging part of having DD1 is the weight I haven't lost --6months and 1 million biscuits later

Gatehouse77 Fri 09-Sep-16 20:40:50

ravioli I love that!

NovemberInDailyFailLand Fri 09-Sep-16 21:02:38

Liz has it! Any advice now, and I just laugh evilly smile

WanderingTrolley1 Fri 09-Sep-16 21:08:07

People are just making conversation and telling you of their own experiences.

Yabu. Chill a bit.

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