Don't want to go into massive detail but basically my friends EXH cheated on her with a close female relative. This happened over ten years ago and she stayed with him for a while afterwards, then he left her.
Horrid situation obviously.
Anyway my friend slags her EXH off for this on a regular basis, told their DC what he did at a young age and still reminds them of it often. But she seems to have completely forgiven the relative, she has a close relationship with the teenage DC and carries on with her like nothing has happened. I am fully prepared to be told I AIBU but I can't help thinking:
- She shouldn't have told her young DC in the first place.
- She certainly shouldn't be reminding them of it regularly in an attempt to make them hate him (he is a good dad from what I've seen and she slags him off an awful lot to them about anything she can find)
- In my opinion the betrayal by the close relative is just as bad if not worse than her EXH and if she's forgiven her for it she should really for the DCs sake be letting it lie now?
She's married with another child now, and I can't help but every time she starts talking about her EXH now because he is a topic of conversation at nearly every meeting/night out/ shopping trip and this always gets mentioned. I get that he cheated and is a bastard for that but she's forgiven one party and it takes two to tango, she's my friend and I don't want to tell her what I really think in case I upset her