Anyone awake?

(21 Posts)
FV45 Wed 07-Sep-16 05:21:42

I need to talk....

HulkSpiderParent Wed 07-Sep-16 05:41:58

I'm awake. What's up?

FrancisCrawford Wed 07-Sep-16 05:42:45

I'm up too.
Can we help?

oaadc Wed 07-Sep-16 05:45:03

Me three - hope you're ok

Buggeritimgettingup Wed 07-Sep-16 05:46:26

Here and listening

HonniBee Wed 07-Sep-16 05:46:34

Me too! Lots of us here listening. What's up?

Lovewatchingrainfall Wed 07-Sep-16 05:47:48

I'm awake too. Hope your okay.

UptheAnty Wed 07-Sep-16 05:52:07

Awake here also, how are you op ?

Crankycunt Wed 07-Sep-16 05:52:46

Yup I'm up.

TanteRose Wed 07-Sep-16 05:54:36

and me, OP, what's up?

FV45 Wed 07-Sep-16 05:56:13

Full of anxiety about residency of DS2 when ex finally moves out.

Long thread "the ignoring gaaaa" in relationships.

Am so so worried that his EA will carry on. He refuses to discuss residency. Just tells me his plans as they come up.

I can't work like that. DS2 is so confused.

FV45 Wed 07-Sep-16 05:58:45

Been awake and crying since 4am.

I've been working towards the day he finally moves out, but am now having to accept it won't be over.

I just don't think I can face taking him to Court. I don't have the £££ nevermind the mental or physical strength. I am scared that this will tip me over.

FV45 Wed 07-Sep-16 05:59:09

Been awake and crying since 4am.

I've been working towards the day he finally moves out, but am now having to accept it won't be over.

I just don't think I can face taking him to Court. I don't have the £££ nevermind the mental or physical strength. I am scared that this will tip me over.

peachescreatures Wed 07-Sep-16 06:09:09

flowers Hang in there lovely.

FrancisCrawford Wed 07-Sep-16 06:09:58

Do have any support you can talk too? Someone to be there for you

Crankycunt Wed 07-Sep-16 06:14:30

Oh sweetheart, I can't offer practical advice (however a mnetter will be along for thst).

I can offer a handhold and say you will be free of him soon. Anything to do with the dcs can be done via email or text.

Hang in there flowers

rosesarered9 Wed 07-Sep-16 06:27:10

bump

oaadc Wed 07-Sep-16 06:29:47

I agree with Cranky -

My EA husband left five months ago (at my request). It gets so much better! I am so much happier and lighter. The best bit is that I can choose not to reply to anything abusive he sends.

I do everything via whatsapp with him and regularly email the chats to myself.

It did get a little worse before it got better. Weirdly, the more convinced he was that we were going to get back together, the more horrible he was to me! As soon as I made it very clear that we were definitely over, he became much easier to get along with to the point that he asks my opinion on his profile photo for a dating website etc.

I'm afraid I can't offer any residency advice. Our son has special needs so it's been pretty simple for us. But please do DM me about the EA should you need to.

He even turned on all of the parental controls for our broadband here (it's still an account in his name) so I couldn't use any internet because I wouldn't sell my car and replace it with one of his choosing. Sigh.

The mind games are awful at the time aren't they. But you'll get to a point where you look back and will be able to see how pathetic they really are.
Xxx

FV45 Wed 07-Sep-16 06:44:37

Thank you. Need to get on with the day. Coffee it is then....brew

peachescreatures Wed 07-Sep-16 19:44:21

How's your day Been?

FV45 Wed 07-Sep-16 23:23:41

Terrible. I'll go back to my own thread rather than have two. Thank you all xxx

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