to want the other parent to do a bit more

(8 Posts)
Thedogdidit1 Tue 06-Sep-16 18:22:25

Non-resident parent has just moved about an hour’s drive away. NRP works p/t and has the kids overnight EOW and sees them for a few hours on the non-overnight weekend.

Now NRP is expecting the resident parent, who works full-time and has to do a lot of driving as part of that, to take the DCs over and collect them, or at the very least meet part way along the journey for a handover.

AIBU to think that if NRP has chosen to move away, and was told beforehand that the RP could not manage to take on all the additional driving, that they should be making appropriate arrangements to pick up the DCs rather than expecting the RP to do it? (Meeting part way might have been an option if they were reliable but RP started taking DCs round because NRP was so frequently late/forgot/overslept that it was causing the DCs stress, meeting part way could mean a lot of hanging around waiting by the RP and DCs)

rosesarered9 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:10:16

Ooooh.... I hate third person posts!

I think that responsibility should be shared depending on individual circumstances so whoever has more work to do picks up DC fewer times.

rosesarered9 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:10:37

Which one are you OP?

NotAnotherHarlot Tue 06-Sep-16 19:12:42

NRP IBU.
<gavel>

Lunar1 Tue 06-Sep-16 19:14:00

The person who moves away should pay for the travel in both money and time. It's really crappy though, it wrecks the children's chance to do normal weekend activities.

Mybeardeddragonjustdied2016 Tue 06-Sep-16 20:16:20

Nrp needs to step up.

WankingMonkey Tue 06-Sep-16 20:35:35

NRP IBU clearly..no reason why their choices should make more work for RP

NapQueen Tue 06-Sep-16 20:37:34

The person who adds the time onto the handover has to take responsibility for it. Whatever the circs.

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