To break 3 cups in anger?

(192 Posts)
insideoutcake Tue 06-Sep-16 11:00:06

Today my two youngest have pushed me over the edge. The eldest went back to school yesterday and the
Middle returns Thursday. It's been a long hard summer keeping calm and following best parenting advice but this morning I truly blew up. After the middle one refused to stay on the time out step I screamed and threw 3 cups from the holder onto the floor. No kids were harmed physically but they all look a bit sheepish now and obviously think I'm a psycho. They're probably right. angry

Carrados Tue 06-Sep-16 11:01:27

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insideoutcake Tue 06-Sep-16 11:02:07

Awe thanks. That just made me cry. Period must be sue hug!

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 06-Sep-16 11:02:19

How old are they? I can imagine that was quite scary for them!

AnUtterIdiot Tue 06-Sep-16 11:02:43

Yes, sorry, YABU. My dad used to pull shit like this when he was angry and it scared the shit out of me, even though he'd never have laid a finger on me and I knew it. I'm sure it's really hard sometimes but you cannot do stuff like that. It's just wrong.

insideoutcake Tue 06-Sep-16 11:03:15

That's, period must be due, huh.

I CANT EVEN WRITE RIGHT

RawPrawn Tue 06-Sep-16 11:05:10

Wow. Talk about making memories.

YABU, though I guess you know that.

insideoutcake Tue 06-Sep-16 11:05:12

How about some tips then idiot? Genuinely interested in your parenting tips.

ChicRock Tue 06-Sep-16 11:06:19

YABU. You should look into some kind of anger management and parenting course.

AnUtterIdiot Tue 06-Sep-16 11:08:20

Maybe walk away and do some deep breaths? Run to the bottom of the garden and scream?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 06-Sep-16 11:08:54

Why have a PA dig at another poster? You broke three cups in front of your children in temper. How is that okay? My bio dad used to pull shit like that too and it terrified me.

But I guess it's okay if your period is due.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 06-Sep-16 11:10:24

All parents fuck up but you don't sound remotely sorry that you did it, esp with the angry face at the end of the OP. Do you do stuff like that a lot? If it's a one off then that must have scared them.

BertrandRussell Tue 06-Sep-16 11:10:31

Yep. You are being unreasonable.

WindInThePussyWillows Tue 06-Sep-16 11:11:13

YABVVVU to act so inappropriately in front of your children.
You wouldn't be happy if they threw and broke things in temper tantrums, which is exactly the behaviour you are showing and teaching them.

Mishegoss Tue 06-Sep-16 11:11:39

Sorry that's pretty appalling and it seems like you're trying to make light of it. Do you do this a lot? I think you should speak to someone to help you find some coping strategies. Hopefully they won't tell a teacher..

Branleuse Tue 06-Sep-16 11:12:01

Big hugs. Parenting can be so bloody hard sometimes xx

LiviaDrusillaAugusta Tue 06-Sep-16 11:12:14

Would you be okay with a partner doing this in temper to you?

Tiggeryoubastard Tue 06-Sep-16 11:12:48

Wow. You seem to be proud. And having digs at other posters who (quite rightly) say you're out of order? That reinforces that you do seem to have anger issues. Your poor children.

DonkeyOaty Tue 06-Sep-16 11:13:27

You probably won't do that again - you frightened the children and gave yourself an extra job to do (clearing away the sherds)

Walk away/stuff your face into a pillow to scream/do a silly dance

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Tue 06-Sep-16 11:13:38

In future walk away and calm down before dealing with things.

Shit like that is abusive and threatening.

You want your kids to do as they are told because they respect you, not because they are terrified of what you might do next.

PurpleDaisies Tue 06-Sep-16 11:14:12

When my dad threw a plate at the wall in anger, my sisters and I packed up our toys and tried to walk home to our mum. It took ages for us to trust him again and was one of the most horrible experiences in our childhoods.

Your children would have been terrified. You need to seek help for this.

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 06-Sep-16 11:15:00

YABVU, that's pretty awful.

My ex used to smash stuff in temper (or threaten to) and it was really scary. I was an adult at the time - I dread to think how scary that must be for three small children.

Carrados Tue 06-Sep-16 11:15:29

From the OP's post it looks like she's at the end of her tether and struggling to cope and knows not to do it again.

Yes, it's not nice for DC to see but if she doesn't normally do it and is struggling, let's be supportive.

idontlikealdi Tue 06-Sep-16 11:15:41

YABU. Not on period due or not.

Carrados Tue 06-Sep-16 11:16:20

I say this as someone who grew up with a very PA angry and emotionally abusive parent.

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