I am in bed recovering from the flu (the actual flu, with a 2 day fever, not just a bad cold). Husband has his own car key, I also have a copy of the car key. He cannot find his key, so he wakes me up to ask where is mine. I tell him it is in my work briefcase. He gets said briefcase and without looking in it dumps it on me (who is lying on the bed), without a word. I say "Can you please look for the key, I am sick", in a somewhat exasperated voice but fairly politely in the circumstances. He just says "I can never find anything in your bag" and stands there waiting for me to sit up and look. JUST EFFING LOOK! It's not the fucking Tardis. It's a standard, reasonably tidy, briefcase. Jeeeeeez. Then he sulks like I'm being unreasonable for asking him (politely) to look for himself. Happens all the time, and I'd usually just look for him but I'm particularly pissed off with him today because I'm still sick.
Fucking manchild.
AIBU? Now that I've typed this out I think maybe IABU. I am in the Antipodes so it's evening here if that makes a difference.
AIBU?
to be a bit cross with my husband?
cmwife · 06/09/2016 09:26
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....keep coming upstairs to ask me stupid questions like "what should I put in dd's sandwich"
It's funny how all these men seem to function perfectly well at work
MyBreadIsEggy why didn't you just stay in bed? I'm sure he would have managed in your absence. What would he do if you were away or in hospital?
I have waited months for DH to hang a picture on the landing, on Saturday afternoon I fell asleep whilst mooching on the tablet, so I got into bed properly.
I swear to God there is some sort of invisible bat call when I get an hour to myself, 
he was up in thirty minutes saying when you have a minute we need to discuss where you want the picture. (Turns out it was half time at the rugby)
I rolled over patted him on the arm and said I love you, yo are funny and promptly went back to sleep for an other hour. 
Should add, Not genuinely diagnosed as colourblind....just blind to what colours a normal human being would put together
Sorry for not responding, fell asleep. No, I didn't cave and look for it (hence the sulking). Must be a serious sulk too - it's after 11 pm here and he's clearly decided to sleep on the sofa. Not that I'm going to go and check on him. I hope he's cold and miserable .
Glad no one thinks I'm being unreasonable so far.
I wouldn't let my 8 year old treat me like this either - but then she wouldn't because she doesn't suffer from this learned incompetence.
I have been trying for a while now to make it his problem when he behaves like this e.g. if I get the 20 questions approach described above I keep saying "I'm not sure, I'll leave that with you.". The sulking just annoys me though. What is he, four years old?
Haha mybear I always wonder exactly what he thinks is in my bag/briefcase. I never store anything exotic in there. I even make sure I put tampons in a side pocket so he cannot be embarrassed by them.
I just looked in the briefcase (which he dug through for all of 3 seconds before stomping out) and the keys are RIGHT THERE ON THE TOP.
RAAAAAAAGE.
I feel much better for posting.
DH asks me stupid stuff too. Oh, where's that shirt of mine?
WHY would I know???
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