To expect others to not post baby on social media

(13 Posts)
firsttimemum15 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:17:53

I don't put pics of baby on social media.
Is it unreasonable to think others would follow my lead?
I wouldn't put someone else's child on social media, particularly not if the parent hadn't...

I've let some pics slide (went to a first birthday for a friend's baby and pics of my baby went online)
But other pics have gone up now... I'm. Just not comfortable with it.

I don't know how to handle this without looking prossy/paranoid/like a drama queen etc

LolaStarr Mon 05-Sep-16 21:19:17

YANBU. I post pictures of my DS now and again but family members etc still ask me before they put any of him on. Who has put pictures of your baby on without permission?

anyoldname76 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:20:17

just ask them to delete them

firsttimemum15 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:34:21

I don't feel like it's that easy. Usually I'd say exactly the same thing.

I did ask some people to delete.. visitors taking selfie in v early days.

Some pics were taken at a new friends party of her baby enjoying their day. Some taken at baby meet ups. There's not many.

MimiSunshine Mon 05-Sep-16 21:38:04

Are the pictures just solely of your child or 'group' shot? If the former then you just have to say please could you email / WhatsApp that to me it's lovely, but please don't put on FB ect as we prefer not to put any of baby online.

If the later then I think you need to remove your child when people are taking pictures as it's hardly fair to police what people do with pics of their own children that happen to include yours

firsttimemum15 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:39:55

Group type shots.

I take group pics for baby book etc but wouldn't put on social media.

If it was just my baby I'd say something like with people taking selfie. Family haven't put any on x

TaterTots Mon 05-Sep-16 21:40:43

I would always take my lead from the parents. I post pictures of my niece, but only because I know my sister is comfortable with it. If she didn't do it, I wouldn't do it.

Partiallycloudy Mon 05-Sep-16 21:44:53

We just asked people as soon as ds was born not to post on Fb etc and over all people have been pretty fine with it. We do just ask people not to post pics especially if we know people post a lot on social media. We've never had any issues with our request.
But we have started posting stuff on Instagram- can't help it he's just so cute! But have about 5 followers on Instagram so hardly anyone sees them!

firsttimemum15 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:44:56

I'm of the same opinion Tater. But because I've allowed a couple as I let it slide firet time it looks like I don't have a leg to stand on/am just being awkward....

Maybe I'll remove from group shots from now on with a particular group or say I don't post on social media.

I don't use twitter/snapchat/instagram so don't know if anything has gone on there

RochelleGoyle Mon 05-Sep-16 21:47:04

I posted one pic of my baby son online with the intention that following that birth announcement, further photos would be few and far between. However, others seemed to take that as permission to post their own pictures of him. I haven't yet said anything as I felt a bit hypocritical but I might gently make my feelings about social media known next time I see anyone taking snaps. So no, YANBU. It is also the case, however, that many people wouldn't give a second thought to posting pics of children, so don't be surprised if some folk think you're being 'funny' (you're not).

firsttimemum15 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:55:22

It's sad isn't it.

Posted 1 birth photo of the 3 of us. Baby can barely be seen. Ever since I've put on a few shots but they don't show face. Back of head shots playing or aerial shot. There's only a few and some people have picked up on luck of face rare posts. Clearly others haven't x

firsttimemum15 Mon 05-Sep-16 21:55:53

I still wouldn't post pics of somebody else's child group shot or not though

YouCanButImNot Mon 05-Sep-16 22:26:46

I don't post any pictures of my dd online either and nobody else has until this weekend when my niece put one on. Felt a bit odd asking a teenager to take it off but she has loads of friends. So yanbu, if you're not comfortable with it ask them to remove. But be nice about it.

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