Depression

(10 Posts)
Namechange1694 Mon 05-Sep-16 17:43:38

I suffer from Anxiety and it is causing me to dip into depression. I feel helpless, scared, lonely and just feel like it's never going to end. Does it get better? What helped yours?

Not really an Aibu sorry flowers

HereIAm20 Mon 05-Sep-16 17:46:08

All the usual things they suggest such as exercise and fresh air, forcing yourself to do things. It is really hard to even contemplate these things when feeling that way but they do really help.

I feel for you and wish you all the best.

Lilaclily Mon 05-Sep-16 17:51:29

Eating better and ditching the alcohol , it's very hard but I feel so much better fit and thin

Lilaclily Mon 05-Sep-16 17:52:02

Have you thought of going to the gp though ? Early nights also help me

olives106 Mon 05-Sep-16 17:55:47

It does get better. One thing the disease does is tell you things are utterly hopeless and black and will never get better, but that's the disease talking, it's not the truth. Things do get better. For many people it comes and goes but even for them there are lighter times between relapses.

Are you getting treatment? If so and it's not working, go back and ask to be reviewed. There are so many treatments these days there is something that will work for you, or it may well get better on its own, depression often does.

Margo3791 Mon 05-Sep-16 17:58:33

Dear OP, I've suffered severe depression, low mood, anxiety and insomnia.

These are all symptoms of past loss, maltreatment, abuse (physically or psychological) of some sort, emotional deprivation/neglect, lack of good enough parenting. It could also be a death in the past that you didn't grieve properly. It could be so many things, but it's mainly related to a loss or trauma, especially if suffered in early childhood or infancy.

What really helped in my case was to understand the losses I didn't grieve in the past. My father emigrated when I was a child so I lost him at the age of three even if he didn't die.

It also helped me to understand the relationship with my mother. When I realised how undermothered I was as a child and teenager, it was no surprise at all I suffered from depression later in life.

Once you become aware of your own losses, you can transform them into something better, something healthier.

It's important to set boundaries with the people around you, even if this means low contact or no contact with your family or friends. It's a long journey, but we can all be healed with lots of self care and love that we can give to ourselves if nobody around us is ready to give us right now.

Parenting is also a great healer as by parenting another human being in the same way that we wished we would have been cared for, we heal our own wounds and move forward.

Depression and anxiety is the way our bodies and minds tell us that there is an injury in our souls, that there are emotions that were repressed or neglected. And this is a good thing as they prompt us to heal those wounds, and become aware of who we really are.

slaner Mon 05-Sep-16 18:03:45

Have you tried counselling, maybe you've got some unresolved issues and feel insecure? You should have an NHS talking therapies service depending where you live where you can self refer for 1 to 1 sessions or CBT based courses that can help address negative thinking. Definitely stay away from alcohol as much as poss and try to get fresh air and be outdoors when you can. Tell your GP how you are feeling as well. I've been there and come out the other side you can get well again flowers

Namechange1694 Mon 05-Sep-16 20:23:34

I am receiving treatment and going to a counselling. I feel better now for going for a run, my mental health problems go through episodes and this is one of them.

Sometimes it's good to know your not along. Thank you flowers

Crystal15 Mon 05-Sep-16 20:27:06

Oh it gets better. I had 10 long years and I came out the other side. Vitamins, learning to float past feelings and accept thoughts and exercise, mindfulness too. Look into claire weekes. Google her free audios, she's amazing!!

LadyMaryofDownt0n Mon 05-Sep-16 21:05:09

Great post by Margo! I've had severe depression & anxiety for about 10 years now & ive never though of it or had it referred to as a disease. That makes so much sense!

One small step at a time has been helping me recently. Although I am always one step forward two back.

Also routine is great, as much as possible but don't push yourself to do to much either.

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