Something has been bugging me for a couple of weeks now.
I currently have a four month old baby and two older children. I was unable to breastfeed my older two following severe medical problems after the birth but have been fine to feed dc3. In fact, I've had a massive oversupply and have completely filled our freezer.
I enquired about donating to a special care baby unit but was too late in registering (has to be before 4 months).
Found a site which matches mums who want donor milk with mums who are willing to donate and found a fairly local mum who wanted milk for her daughter. I contacted her and she was delighted I was offering milk for donation. She'd struggled to feed her daughter and had recently returned to work and her supply had completely dried up.
She came to collect a couple of weeks ago and I donated over 80 bags of frozen milk.
I was on a bit of a giddy high as I have been so overwhelmed that I've actually been able to feed my baby that I didn't even think at the time about the hours and hours id taken to actually pump, sterilise and store the milk - not to mention the cost of actually buying all the storage bags. I was just so delighted to be helping someone else (and also to reclaiming the freezer!)
I've still got about 70+ bags left for myself so I've not gone short or anything but a family member asked me 'did you ever hear from the woman again?'
When I said I'd had a short thank you via Facebook, my family member then looked shocked and said, 'what? Not even a bunch of flowers or box of chocolates or a card? You gave them all of that and you've had nothing in return?'
Now as I said, I did it to help a fellow mum out and didn't even think of expecting anything at the time but what my family member says has started to bug me. I spent literally hours day and night for weeks on end pumping that milk (I pumped every 2 hours, 24 hours a day for the first 2 months to get my supply up) and have spent a fortune on storage bags etc.
I'm now upset as my donation has now been a bit tainted by what my family member has said.
Am I being unreasonable to not know if I deserve a thank you?
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Sparklycurtainpole · 05/09/2016 09:35
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